Posted in gratitude, Life, self-love

Thank You and Goodbye, 2014.

Hello there, 2014.

You have not been a good year for me and I will be glad to bid you farewell.

I am not the only one who thinks so of you; the majority of the people around me hold the same opinion of you as I do.

My health, family and work are in jeopardy with you. However, you have also been the year where I have uncovered awesome strengths in myself and found more values for myself. You have been a year of many life lessons learnt.

We started off with bad health. In fact, the bad health persists even until now, haha. You have seen me developed rashes all over my body, and this lasted for months. For a while I thought the cause was bedbugs, and this remains a mystery.

My period has not been accurate and this has got to be my major health concern for the year. I have come to appreciate the cramps I had when I was having my period and the “cumbersome” cleaning up. I would cheer and rejoice if my period was to happen now! So, to all women and girls out there, please be grateful for your monthly period because it shows that you are on the healthier side. A real woman. Having irregular menstruation or having a long period of no-menstruation is destructive for one’s body. We women need this monthly blood change to flush out toxins. I am no doctor, but I can feel the difference in my body when my period has gone MIA (missing in action) for months. And the difference is not a positive one.

Our journey together towards the mid-year was the worst.

Where shall I begin? More than half of my colleagues in my team have left us, one after another. Out of nine, only three of us remained to hold the fort. Long hours of work and heavy workload, and it hasn’t help much that I was not more than five months into the new environment. The initial stage was pretty okay though; I was unbelievably positive. I was somehow feeling totally fine with the strenuous working pattern, day in and day out. I have held visions and spoken positive monologue with myself. They certainly helped and I feel thankful for those.

However, it has to be at this same time that my family met with one of our biggest crisis. I was hesitant to be completely open to you in here but I believe I have now seen the worst to care such. Well, my family is falling apart.

We hadn’t been exactly a happy family. We were a traditional Asian family whereby the father is strict and there is always a distance between each family member. Like so many youngsters in this era, we spent most of our time outside with so many friends but with our own family members. I have always known when I was very young that my parents do not have a loving relationship together. I remembered I was amazed when I saw middle aged married couples put their arms around each other with smiles full of love. I didn’t think that those were possible, because it certainly isn’t in my family. Well, despite all the mentioned and our differences, our seemingly nonchalant-ness, our minimal communication, I thought that we could be forever. But I was wrong.

When it happened, surprisingly, I took it pretty well. Like I have said, you have got to be the year which I have surpassed myself in every single way. I am known for being fiercely loyal to the people I love and I will expect the same treatment in return. However, when it happened, I did not blame my father. The fault lies in all of us. We have grown apart so much that perhaps my father felt that it is pointless to stay as a family together. I did not blame him for seeking comfort outside the family.

No one at work knows about my family drama aside for a couple of closed ones. I have to be the strong one in my family. Through this family crisis, I have witnessed how vulnerable my mother and my younger brother can be. For months, I have lived with worry and fear of losing them too. I was so afraid that they, especially my beloved mother, could not handle Life itself.

It was a very, very tough period of time.

Gradually, the drama at home and at work is taking its toll on me. I can feel my strength slipping away, I can feel my energy being zapped away. But I cannot go down; both sides needed me.

Now, I am so, so glad that things are started to look up. I have survived! Things have gotten so much better now, and I am feeling extremely thankful. My mother is walking out of it, my brother is more positive, I got a job promotion and my relationship with everyone around me has become even better. Guess my only regret will be my father…

Until now, I do not know how I have managed through all these. The woes of my health, family and work. A friend who got to knew commented that if I did not share with him, he would never have known, because I betray no sign at all~

Isn’t it wasted of my talent that I am not able to be an actress at Mediacorp? Wahaha!

I have learnt too many lessons this year and I have received many valuable gifts too.

I am now a strong believer that Time heals everything. As long as you never give up on yourself, everything will pass with time. All the sadness, worry, fear, anger, torture… and love. So, it is very important that we give thanks each day when we wake up to a new day alive, and give thanks each night when we close our eyes and sleep in peace. To be able to do so is a precious gift not to be taken for granted.

I have seen how destructive this crisis was for my mother. To not be able to sleep a wink for months is like moving towards a slow and conscious death. Thus please, cherish. This is because you will never know what will be in store for you tomorrow, or on the next hour, the next minute, the next second. Time will never stop for you.

Oh, and I have grown highly resilient! Well, at least in my personal context. I never expected myself not to throw in the white towel at all, haha! It has been all very amazing. *pat my own back*

The books I have read, the people I have met, the classes I have attended, the days I have lived, all of these have helped me tide through 2014. I feel like a different person as I was one year ago. I am now more self-aware, more grateful and more positive than ever!

Thank you, 2014. You have not been extremely kind to me, but you have been very practical with me. The valuable lessons which I have learnt from you have definitely shaped me into a better person who is able to work more confidentiality and surely into her future!

So, 2015, here I come!

Love

Chloe ❤

Posted in Career and Jobs, Challenge, Motivational, positive, self-doubt, self-love, self-worth

Day 11 [Career]: “I’m doing what I love, and earning lots of money doing it.”

Monday~ Monday~ today is a Monday~

Right now, my Monday is ending…finally! LOL! Monday is generally a Monday-blue day for the majority. That is because we miss our weekends and are unwilling to welcome another working week! But once I kick-start my week with Monday, my engine will start to run, and another weekend will be arriving soon 😀 HAHA.

OK, that’s a lot of crap as the beginning (that is what Monday will do to me). It is now Day-11! HAHA I know that I am super behind the schedule but. I am glad I do this challenge in a pace I am comfortable with 😀 Not as an excuse, but I feel that more time in between each day’s challenge actually makes me digest each positive affirmation better 🙂

 

Day 11: [Career]

 

  1. Identify your ideal career.

I love reading and writing. I love acting. I love listening to problems and solving them. My ideal career(s) will thus be a novelist/ blogger, actress, and a coach/ therapist.

 

  1. Identify three things blocking you from pursuing your ideal career now.

Novelist/ Blogger

  1. Stable source of income
  2. The time to write

Actress

  1. Opportunities
  2. Stable source of income

Coach/ Therapist

  1. Knowledge on the area of expertise

 

  1. Identify solutions for these obstacles.

Novelist/ Blogger

  1. Build up a passive income system
  2. Come up with a time-table/ fixed schedule/ roster to write regularly

Actress

  1. Research for audition/ competition openings
  2. Build up a passive income system

Coach/ Therapist

  1. Taking up courses on the area of interested expertise.

 

  1. Take action!

OH YEAH!

 

  1. Say today’s affirmation:

“I’m doing what I love, and earning lots of money doing it.”

 

My Afterthoughts:

I am loving this challenge on Career. Career has been something which is constantly on my mind ever since I was 13 years old, no kidding.

My mind and heart are two conflicting domains. The mind wants to find a career which can earn me lots of money (a paradigm influenced by childhood’s poverty) but my heart wants the career to of passion and be self-fulfilling and rewarding. They result in me constantly finding the career path which I will love doing for the rest of my life and which I earn me the income to achieving financial freedom.

Through this challenge, in the midst of penning down my thoughts on my interest, what I see as obstacles, and the solutions, I see a clearer path to attaining my dream job and life 😀 It also gives me the consolations that I am indeed working, albeit baby steps, towards my bling bling future!

I highly recommend anyone who is feeling lost in life in the area of career, to do this!

Good luck 🙂

 

You can see more of the actual Day-11 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-11-career/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

Posted in Challenge, Love and Relationships, positive

Day 10 [Love]: “I’m attracting my soulmate.” / “I’m in a loving relationship filled with unconditional love, trust, and respect.”

Hello Everyone! Today is a relaxing Sunday, woot!

I am having one, nope, two of the battles in life now, are you having one too? Don’t give up! Battles are always tough, but I am sure we will emerge as an even stronger person when we end the battles in victories! 😀

Without further ado, Day-10, let’s go!

 

Day 10: [Love]

 

  1. Imagine your ideal romantic relationship.

“For singles: What’s your dream relationship like? How would you describe it?

For those in a relationship: Identify your ideal relationship with your partner. It doesn’t matter whether these qualities are currently present in your relationship — simply write them down.”

 

For me, my ideal relationship with my partner is of love, respect, trust, understanding, chemistry, lifelong learning of life itself and appreciation.

All are self-explanatory perhaps except “lifelong learning of life itself”. Be it educational context or improving personal wellbeing as a whole, I am extremely interested and can see myself indulging in lifelong learning perhaps till the day I depart. Thus, my soulmate and partner in life has to be someone who shares the same vision as I do – to constantly improve oneself, because learning never ends.

 

  1. Identify simple steps you can make to this relationship happen.

 

It will be just two simple, yet it-will-be-a-journey-to-achieve steps:

i.  High Quality, Regular Communication: I need to constantly communicate with my partner on how and what I am feeling… this is of vast importance. One shouldn’t expect anyone to be able to read your minds… if you have that in your life right now, that is a blessing, but if you haven’t, don’t feel dejected! Dramas/ movies and fictions made this a “mandatory” criterion and beautify love relationship for the sake of viewership.

ii. Be the person I want my partner to be: Simple, yet the toughest to achieve out of the two steps. If I want my partner to be understanding, I have to be understanding towards him first. If I want my partner to trust me, I have to give him my trust first.

One cannot expect the other party to be “perfect” when one couldn’t even achieve half of the qualities one has listed out, yes?

 

  1. Take action!

Alrighty! On my mark!

 

  1. Say today’s affirmation.

 

“Close your eyes. Visualize yourself in the exact relationship you just painted in Step #1. Both of you are holding each other’s hands and strolling down the beach together, talking, smiling, and laughing. After some time, you stop to hug him/her, and he/she gladly returns your hug. At this moment, both of you are locked in a tight, passionate embrace. Feel the love, excitement, and happiness arising in your heart as all this is happening.”

 

(For singles):

“From this moment on, I’m attracting my soulmate, and in time to come we’ll meet and be forever bound in love and light.”

(For those in a relationship):

“I’m in a loving relationship filled with unconditional love, trust, and respect.”

 

My Afterthoughts:

 

It is easy as abc to list down the criteria and qualities you want your partner to have. It is also as easy as 123 to pinpoint the qualities in which your current partner is lacking of.

However, it may not be as easy when you gotta think and come up of the action steps to working towards your ideal relationship.

Empty talks bring no ideal future. It is time for all of us to be more conscious and aware in our everyday life and interaction not only with our partners, but also with the people around us. Once we are self-aware, we are able to recognise good/ bad points of ourselves and the other party, and come up with action plans to rectify. 😀

Good luck 🙂

You can see more of the actual Day-10 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-10-love/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

Posted in Challenge, positive

Day 9 [Relationships]: “I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

Heya Everybody!

How was your week so far? TOMORROW IS THE FRIDAY! *throws confetti*

It’s getting late, am feeling tired and drained, but I have not been posting for a few days… and so 😦

Work is really taking its toll on me, but I am still hanging on, hahaha 😀

And I hope you are, too 🙂

A piece of good news (?): I am currently in the midst of writing a looong post of some tips on a particular subject. It is getting super long because I am very excited and passionate about writing it haha! I can’t wait to finish it and share with you people soon!

OK, stop the random talk, Day-9, let’s go~

 

Day 9: [Relationships]

LOL. Funny how I chose of all days to work on my Day 9 challenge. And I swear I did not know it is going to be on Relationships. Lately… relationships seem to be the one thing which is issuing me a challenge of life. Handling abrupt changes, balancing, and finding peace not only with others but also within myself.

Ah… relationships.

No man is an island, yeah?

 

  1. Identify your ideal relationship.

In an amicable, supportive, open and honest relationship that is full of love and trust with the people around me. Especially the close ones, the loved ones.

 

  1. Identify places where you can find such people. (With the exception of our family which we can’t change,) Where can you find the kind of people who matche (match) what you mentioned in Step #1?

Mm, this is a little tough for me. Where can I find such people? I gotta say, it depends on the sincerity, rapport and willingness of both parties. They can be anywhere, even the girl who is in the queue in front of you and you strike a casual and friendly conversation with, or an existing someone with whom you wish to improve the relationship with.

 

  1. Identify action steps! Based what you’ve written in Step #2, what do you need to do to start meeting such people? Identify specific action steps, and include deadlines where applicable!

Is this referring to expanding my social circle?

Firstly, for existing relationships, be more proactive in daily life, such as with family, friends and colleagues. Also, be more understanding… must always remind myself to take a step back and think in another person’s shoe. But… honestly, that has been what I am always doing, and it does get tiring at times. The other party must bear the similar sentiment to make the relationship a better one. Otherwise, it would be an one-sided constant effort… patience, persistence and time will be the key factors.

As for expanding my social circle, to take part in activities and scout for interest groups. I used to join a Go chess club. It was so much fun! But I have stopped when life is more demanding. Perhaps I should revisit this particular interest. An appropriate time will be when I completed my Graduate Diploma in Positive Psychology. And it would be so cool if I could take up violin and tennis classes again! I remembered it was extremely gratifying when I’m engaged in activities of my interest 😀

Oh, and I would love to meet up with like-minded people on discussing and sharing ways to live a healthier life and have a healthier lifestyle! For some reason, I am currently EXTREMELY interested in this topic and have been implementing positive changes with baby steps into my life right now! :D:D Will share more details in a separate post soon ~

And and and… I WOULD WANNA LEARN TO COOK AND BAKE. Yep, you read me right. I do not know how, but I am VERY interested in learning more now. So I can cook healthier meals for me and my loved ones! Oooh I feel so excited just by the thought of it! Perhaps I shall first start with helping my mom out in the kitchen HAHA.

 

  1. Say today’s affirmation. Close your eyes. Visualize yourself surrounded by a large group of people, all of whom you have conscious relationships with. Imagine yourself chatting, laughing, smiling, and spending time with these people, as you walk hand-in-hand with everyone, through the journey of life. Feel the warmth, happiness, and excitement in your heart. As you do, say the affirmation:

“I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

The Law of Attraction! Work your magic on me! NOW! *ting*

 

My Afterthoughts:

A slightly different approach on the topic of Relationships as I was expecting. It is more of sourcing and creating new and positive relationships instead of working on existing ones. Nevertheless, I never expected myself to mention my old loves: GO chess, tennis and violin! Time to include them in my life again! 🙂

 

You can see more of the actual Day-9 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-9-relationships/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe

Posted in Challenge, positive

Day 7 [Opportunities]: “Opportunities are everywhere. It’s up to me to find (or create) them and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

It is now past 12am! I totally missed posting on the 15th itself T_T

Hi Everyone! Happy TGIF!

Are you feeling equally excited as I am now? I have worked from 8.30am to 9pm today and yet I am feeling happy amidst my mental exhaustion… because tomorrow is the long-waited weekend! *throws confetti*

It has been a suuuppppeeer busy week for me. Finally I will be having some time for myself 😀

It’s Day-7 challenge for today, let’s go~

Day 7: [Opportunities]

 

1. Identify an area of your life where you feel blocked by a lack of choices/ opportunities.

It has to be career, finance and health for me.

Career: I am still in a job which is not my ideal career. I am working hard to acquire more knowledge of my interest (positive psychology). Basically, I have been a people-person for my entire work-life, so I cannot simply job-hop to another field and expect to earn the same remuneration… Plus, another issue came into the picture, which is –

Finance: Due to some family issues and personal commitments, I am unable to simply ditch my job with its monthly source of income to indulge myself into a highly possible “income-less” period. Sad, I know, but it is the truth that I need this job right now more than anything else.

Health: As the number of candles on my birthday cakes increases, I noticed that my health isn’t as terrific as it was years back when I was still schooling. I finally taste the bitterness of so many other seniors before me… that I cannot afford to live in such a junk-ful lifestyle anymore. I am becoming more and more health conscience and my biology clock has recently sounded its alarm and I was alarmed! Time to take good care of myself if I want to have a healthy retirement life~

2. Ask yourself, “How can I create the opportunity to succeed in this area?”

Career: Honestly, I thought I am faring pretty well right now, haha. Even though this is not going to be a job which I am going to marry, I am certainly doing my very best at my job right now 😀 And by doing so, I have more opportunities to explore and uncover more of my abilities and capabilities I thought I did not possess. The challenges I am facing and the fact that I am still sticking around with a positive mindset… I’m totally building my resilience level, people! And when my bosses and colleagues trust me more and more… it feels good muhahah 😀

As for my actual ideal career itself… at least I am currently taking up courses to build a stronger foundation? 🙂

Finance: Live a simpler lifestyle. Or at least I am trying to. Or maybe I should come up with some form of concrete plan to do so? It is pretty difficult to find cheap food in the Central Business District (CBD) area, but I believe there are cheaper food, I just need to dig them out 😀 I am beginning to learn on ways which I can start and build some passive incomes. I am so excited to explore this area! And oh, I need to save 10% more of what I am saving now!

Health: Exercise more! Eat healthier! Enough said!

3. Take action on what you’ve written in Step #2!

OMG, so step 3 is on action plans!

Career: I need to get more sleep!

Finance: OK, just drop another dollar into my piggy bank 🙂

Health: … I need to get a new set of gym clothes. Then… morning exercise, here I come! Before this challenge, I am actually seriously contemplating starting my day with a 20 minutes exercise! Gonna be a challenge, YES, but if there are people who can do this, I can, too!

 

4. Say today’s affirmation.

“Close your eyes. For the next 10 to 15 seconds, imagine your ideal vision for this area where you feel felt blocked. Now, visualize yourself breaking through the obstacle(s) and paving the way to realize your ideal vision. Visualize yourself CREATING A PATH, WHERE THE PATH DIDN’T EXIST BEFORE, TO MAKE YOUR VISION COME TO LIFE. CONTINUE THIS VISUALIZATION FOR AS LONG AS YOU DESIRE, until the vision is fully etched in your mind.”

“Opportunities are everywhere.
It’s up to me to find them (or create them) and
MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

My Afterthoughts:

The italic quote of point 4 is of course, original text as advised by Celes in the original Day-7 challenge post.

If I am not wrong, this is something like NLP, and I thought it works well on me 😀 So many paths I can take, so many “starting points” which I can choose from, but my mind naturally selects the one starting point for me! And when I follow the instruction to visualise further, I see results! So, this is how I could walk my path to my ideal life! 😀

Any obstacles are opportunities in life which give you the chances to challenge yourself!

You can see more of the actual Day-7 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-7-opportunities/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

Posted in Challenge, Chloe, Motivational

Day 5 [Gratitude]: “I’m grateful for everything in my life.”

Hi Everyone!

OK… Day 5 came extremely late, and I am totally guilty of it.

I admit I do have chances to continue with the 15 Days Affirmation Challenge for the past 10 days, but I did not. I was… busy with life, and was (am) feeling mentally exhausted. Not the right state of mind to continue with the challenge because it would all be but half-heartedness. And that is the last thing I want it to happen to the challenge.

So, hope you would forgive me (if you have been waiting at all) T_T!

OK, there are just SO many things to talk about of the Day-5 affirmation, and it’s my personal favourtite just by looking at the topic! Without further ado, let’s begin, yo!

 

Day 5 [Gratitude]

1. Identify three things that you tend to take for granted.
i. Definitely the people who love me. And they are usually the people I love too. The categories of people who topped this list has to be my family. They are always there for me. Well, not like they can choose to not having me as their family member (haha), but they tend to be more lenient towards me. I can show the ugliest side of myself with complete assurance that they would just accept it and never turn their backs at me (albeit with curses and swears). And I definitely owe them my life and yet… they are the people I seem to thank the least 😦 Gonna change that now!
ii. The fact that I am alive and breathing. Most of us tend to wake up every working morning, either dreading the day or cursing the day. Me, for one, do not wake up jumping out of bed and celebrating another day’s of life. Bad start of the day, eh?
iii. My health. Recently, my health started to sound the alarm, and I was alarmed. Good health is one thing I always take for granted, and I feed myself with rubbish food, sleep at ungodly hour only to be sleep-derived the next morning and started the day with negativity, and think I am young and healthy enough to not rely on regular exercise to keep my good health. Argh. Am totally regretting my absurd teen years now.

 

2. Identify 10 things that you are grateful for in your life.
i. My family. Without them, I wouldn’t be here. Period.
ii. Myself. I am thankful that I love myself. I am thankful that I appreciate me. I am thankful for the eyes to see, the nose to smell, the mouth to talk and eat, the ears to listen, the heart to beat… you get the drift.
iii. My friends. They spice up my life, and we trust each other in times of crisis. I am thankful to have groups of trusted and close peers!
iv. My boyfriend. He has opened my eyes and mind on financial blueprint and alot more things. I am thankful that he is a loving and supportive man 🙂
v. The earth; the sun, the wind, the rain. I am so, so thankful for the air to breathe, the beautiful place to reside, and so many more to be grateful for. Thank you for having me here! Earlier this year, for months we did not have a single drop of rain in Singapore. We are a Garden City and I recalled how traumatised I have felt when I saw the grasses and trees turn brown and wither, and how the soil cracked from dryness. I was seriously overcome with sadness. And when it finally rained, we rejoiced!
vi. My job. It is not my complete passion, but it opens doors. I am a stronger person with greater resilience, and I am extremely grateful for the chance to accept the challenge and grow bigger than the obstacle. I felt accomplished and the more I uncover unimaginable things about myself, the more I love me more.
vii. Singapore. I am thankful to be born in Singapore, and not any where else where Education, clean water, a roof over my head and plenty food on the table are luxuries and not mandatory.
viii. My passion to read and write. Reading has made up a huge and important part of my life in unimaginable ways. I feel thankful that I love to read.
ix. Future. I am thankful to have ideas on the directions which I can grow to become in the future.
x. Now. I am extremely thankful for Now. I am alive and breathing now and that is the most important thing to feel grateful for.

 

3. Identify ONE thing you can do TODAY to express gratitude to any one item on your list.
OK, instead of “today” (since now is close to 11.30pm), I shall list one thing which I am going to do “tomorrow”.
I am going to jump out of bed feeling grateful and elated and full of energy instead of dragging my limp body out of bed! Hey, don’t judge me, I think this is a HUGE challenge 😀

 

4. Say today’s affirmation.

“I’m grateful for everything in my life.”

THANK YOU!

 

 

My Afterthoughts:

Gratitude is one very positive emotion which is incredibly important to have and to practise in everyday life. If a person feels no gratitude, not even the slightest in everyday life, this person is basically a very, very unhappy person.

I am a happy person, yeah! 😀

 

You can see more of the actual Day-5 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-5-gratitude/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe

Posted in Challenge, Chloe, Motivational

Day 3 [Ability]: “I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

Hi Everyone!

Sorry, I was away for a day, and now I have four days of affirmation challenges to catch up! Nfsjfsfskfnskfnsk

Randomness aside, let my Day-3 begin, yo!

 

Day 3: [Ability]

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

 

Aha! I was one of the many victims of self-doubting my abilities right until last year. I have many dreams but I let my scary-cat self get the better of me – or rather, my ability.

I thought I was just an ordinary woman… do my dreams matter to the world or even to the people around me? Would it affect me? So what if I do not set my heart to realizing them?

I even thought that I could never, ever achieve anything (minus the stuff which I haven’t achieved yet due to procrastination… uh oh).

But that, has changed tremendously ever since the start of Year 2014 😀

 

1. Identify a goal/dream that you’re blocking yourself in currently.

 

I used to have a lot of dreams which I was blocking them with my very own hands. But I came to understand that only me and my mind can do funny tricks to myself. My attendance at the 2014 National Achievers Congress has made me even more determined to fight till the very end in life. I mean, hey, it’s MY LIFE. If I don’t take charge, who could do that for me?

That being said… right now, there’s only one left which will still do an occasional peek-a-boo on me. Yep, I am trying hard to overcome this:

I might not be a good speaker and a coach.

 

2. Identify your self-limiting belief(s) in this goal/dream.

 

My spoken English is not good enough to be a speaker.

Who would engage my services as a Life Coach in Positive Psychology?

Ok, regarding the first point on my self-belittling belief system on my English language, I have some confidence issue when it comes to this area. Growing up in a Mandarin speaking family, I think I speak way better Mandarin than English. Even though I have people around me telling me that my English is good enough than average Singaporeans, I am still not very convinced. Perhaps it was due to a few “humiliating” incidents when I was younger… Somehow while growing up, I have a lot of friends around me who are very fluent in speaking English. There were a few incidents when I have mispronounced words, and I felt ashamed. These most likely resulted in me having low self-confidence in speaking English. I tend to fumble with the words on my tongue! Urgh.

As for the point on being a coach, I have all the fears and doubts. Even though I have friends around me who have more confidence in me than I have in myself, I still have these self-doubts on my ability to becoming a coach. I think… I was worried and afraid that I wouldn’t be able to help my clients in the way I want to help them.

 

3. Change this self-limiting belief(s).

 

Don’t be shy Chloe, just speak out loud! If you know you tend to speak at a very fast pace hence making the words fumble even more, slow down! You don’t want to get a ticket for speeding! … OK that was lame randomness.

Yep, so what if I sound like an idiot (OK, I seriously don’t think I am so bad to this extent but, you know) when I speak in English? Just put more consciousness into it when speaking English to people! Don’t get intimidated by your past experiences! And. Speak. S-l-o-w-e-r. Don’t always talk like you are gonna catch a train =.=

As for the coaching part, you know you can do it! You have all the people around you proving to you that you can do it! You already have plans on becoming a coach, just follow through and you shall see for yourself!

Aja Aja fighting!

 

4. Identify action step(s) you’re going to take to realize this goal/dream.

 

OK, finally something I can hold my head high 😀

I have signed up for a public speaking course and will be attending it in early August… woot!

I am currently taking up the diploma in Positive Psychology, the crucial component to becoming the coach that I want to be in the future.

Looking good, Chloe! 😀

 

5. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

 

OK, spoken out loud cum screamed in my head 😀

 

My Afterthoughts:

 

It is a nasty thing to admit to yourself the things that are bothering you. Especially when you just want to turn a blind eye to these hidden issues until they really surface as problem (usually at crucial times).

But I’m glad I did, in writing and sharing. Especially when I continue writing the action plans to change the negative beliefs, I feel more assured 😀

LOL. I felt like I was reprimanding myself though. Yep, I need a good scolding, by myself! Look at what kind of rubbish I have been telling myself and making myself believe in these kind of trash. Tsk tsk tsk.

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it!: This is definitely gonna be a true story which I would be telling people in the future 😀

You can see more of the actual Day-3 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-3-ability/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe

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Day 2 [Self-Love]: “I love myself unconditionally.”

Hello there!

The sky was pouring now as I was writing this and I love weathers like this (especially when I was snuggling at home :D)!

I have just completed my Day-1 positive affirmative in Celes’ 15-Day Affirmations Challenge 🙂

OK, I gotta catch up with the rest (currently at Day-4), let’s go~!

 

Day 2: [Self-Love]

 

1. Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have.

Mm…OK. Honestly speaking, I do speak bad of myself on occasions, and they always center around my flabby arms, swimming-float-like tummy, big thighs and cellulite.

I complain of these areas, I wish they would all be two sizes smaller, but I don’t hate myself.

Simply put, I love myself too much to bear such strong negative feelings towards myself! 😀

 

2. Identify the reason behind this self-hate.

Oh! I want to look like a supermodel. I have a girl-crush on Miranda Kerr.

We are so heavily influenced (aka brainwashed) by the media nowadays that we cannot seem to forgive ourselves if we cannot squeeze into a size 2 dress 😮

Bad, I know, but who has really given a two cents worth of thought into this? It has been coded into our DNA that even if we knew that being able to fit into a size 2 dress is not everything, we still yearn it. We see it as a form of confidence boost. Having a supermodel body would raise the confidence bar to a sky-high extent,I believe, but do we really need this to define ourselves? So what is going on with our self-worth?

And not to mention that there are drastic people doing drastic measures just so as to achieve that kind of results!

But for lazy people like me, all I do is to complain, exercise once a week, try not to eat too much of McDonald’s in a month and that’s all. Can I even fit into a size 8 dress? HAHA.

Of course I do admit that at times, when I look at those pretty dresses which would only look good if they are three sizes smaller than me, I would wish for a sexier body~ Sexy lady eh!

 

3. Change your self-hating thoughts.

Body is only a shell (or so I am telling myself). I believe that I am one in a million. I am born to achieve greatness! HAHA.

 

4. Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today.

If this shell is what is bothering me, then I better do something about it. No point whining and complaining and yet allow the weeds to grow like wild fire, yes?

I am currently exercising once a week (Zumba). I aim to also jog… once a week. And I dislike jogging so much! But it is a low cost method which I believed would train my mind. Yep.

I am planning to take up Yogilates (yoga cum pilates) once a week too. I once went for eight classes and then I stopped. The classes were on Saturday mornings! *face palm* Well… I guess this is one way to train my mind too.

The reason for wanting to take up Yogilates is because Yoga is all about stretching the body (deskbound job kills practically any body) and training the mind. Pilates is all about shedding some fats, yo!

Trying to lose some kilograms aside, I strongly believe in leading a healthier lifestyle equals loving yourself. I am currently cutting down on fried food, sugars, salts, meat and the list goes on. Basically, I am increasing my intake of fruits and vegetables 😀 And it feels. So. Good! No kidding! Will blog about it on another day 🙂

 

5HUG YOURSELF.

*hugged tight*

 

6.   Say your new belief(s) and affirmation. Then, with your arms still hugging your body, say your new belief(s) out loud, along with today’s affirmation:

“I love myself unconditionally.”

 

 

My Afterthoughts:

This affirmation is not very applicable to me right now. It might, however, in rainy days (not literally).

The hugging part is unexpected though. If you felt some stretching going on during the self-hugging people, then I believe you are on the right track 😀

You can see the actual affirmation challenge post here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-2-self-love/
 

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe ❤

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[Participated] 15-Day Affirmations Challenge by Celestine Chua

Hi everyone!

I just got to know of this exciting and fun challenge which Celestine Chua (of Personal Excellence) has started!

It’s the 15 Days of Positive Affirmations!

She is already dishing out new affirmations every day, and will do so for a total of 15 days. Each day, participants are to complete the “task” which she has designed for them.

I have already missed out the first 3 days and I am so gonna start now 😀
Each day, while she dishes out new affirmation and task for the day, I will respond by blogging them here 🙂

Through this, I hope that I am able to discover more about myself; to reflect deeper and gain more insights on how to make me an even better person 🙂

If you were as excited as I am, or were intrigued by what you would discover of yourself in this 15-day period, come join us!

For more information, please refer to: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-challenge/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

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Hello! Welcome to Zesty Chloe :)

How Happy Are You?
Yes, I took the selfie in a train LOL.

Hello Everyone! My name is Chloe (as you would have guessed it) and welcome to my world 😀

You might be curious and are wondering, what is this blog about? What do I mean by achieving Happiness here? And, who does she think she is to tell us on how to be happy? HAHA.

I am definitely not someone whom people would rush to bow at my feet. But I am someone who has woken up, and I hope that I can help you awaken the real You in you too.

My goals and dreams are first to be financially free. Thereafter, I can invest my time and attention wholeheartedly on my family, friends, lifelong learning, helping all the people who come to me and the people who I approach, and the list goes on.

I want the world to be a happier place because this is a wonderful world. I want all the people around me to live a life so worth living that when they kicked the bucket, they would go WOOHOO~ MY LIFE IS COMPLETE! … OK, maybe not, but you get the drift.

I want to live a life worth living. I want to be able to make a difference to the world and to the people I come in contact with. I have seen so many people around me living their every day lives not thinking at all, so nonchalant and numb that they might as well be breathing zombies. They are simply walking through everyday without any purpose or happiness.

It pains me greatly to see the people whom I loved and cared for living their lives just like that. And then one day, they would think: is this it? So, what is the meaning of life? What is the meaning of my life?

I have woken up. In fact, I think I was just a little lost. I remembered I used to be curious about everything. I used to live in awe of and appreciation to the world I am living in. I saw the trees and grasses and all the beautiful things created by the Higher Source, and I was in awed of their beauty of life. But I lost this precious heart when my life got busier; when there were more and more things on my plate to suffocate me with. I walked past the trees like they were decorations; I stepped on the grasses thinking it was my right. I didn’t tilt my head back and look up at the blue sky and white clouds anymore.

I have forgotten to be respectful and love the world that I lived in. Instead, all that were on my mind was to hurry through everyday tasks. Woke up in the morning, rushed to work, pissed off that someone had stepped on my toe in the crowded train, sometimes skipping my meals because there were just so many tasks to complete at work. And at the end of the day, all I felt was exhaustion and a sense of emptiness in my soul.

I hadn’t seen myself as the one and only precious me for a very long time.

I refused to be a walking zombie. I was lost for years, and now when I looked back on the days when I was lost, I felt regretful and relieved at the same time.

Regretted the precious time that I have spent unthinking and unfeeling, the time when I have spent complaining and being tired and frustrated with all the little things in life. The things so insignificant that they weren’t have matter in a life and death situation.

On the other hand, I felt a sense of relief. Good thing that I woke up now and not later! It was never too late to wake up, to really open my mind and my heart to see the world and my life as they really are. I used to have dreams but they were lost when I was sleeping. Now I am awake, I have more goals and bigger dreams than before.

I am now trying to live my every day life in awe and appreciation. It will be a long journey for me, but I know I will achieve my ultimate Happiness in life: to spend everyday being happy! I do not live just once; I am living every single day. But I will only die once. And I would want my death to be with minimal regrets.

So, I will be using this platform to share all my thoughts and ideas on attaining a life which is full of happiness every single day. About the obstacles in the form of challenges which I am facing and have faced, and how they might also be yours at the moment. I want to share my growth with all of you and I urge you to join me in my journey 🙂

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you.

 

Chloe ❤