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Day 9 [Relationships]: “I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

Heya Everybody!

How was your week so far? TOMORROW IS THE FRIDAY! *throws confetti*

It’s getting late, am feeling tired and drained, but I have not been posting for a few days… and so 😦

Work is really taking its toll on me, but I am still hanging on, hahaha 😀

And I hope you are, too 🙂

A piece of good news (?): I am currently in the midst of writing a looong post of some tips on a particular subject. It is getting super long because I am very excited and passionate about writing it haha! I can’t wait to finish it and share with you people soon!

OK, stop the random talk, Day-9, let’s go~

 

Day 9: [Relationships]

LOL. Funny how I chose of all days to work on my Day 9 challenge. And I swear I did not know it is going to be on Relationships. Lately… relationships seem to be the one thing which is issuing me a challenge of life. Handling abrupt changes, balancing, and finding peace not only with others but also within myself.

Ah… relationships.

No man is an island, yeah?

 

  1. Identify your ideal relationship.

In an amicable, supportive, open and honest relationship that is full of love and trust with the people around me. Especially the close ones, the loved ones.

 

  1. Identify places where you can find such people. (With the exception of our family which we can’t change,) Where can you find the kind of people who matche (match) what you mentioned in Step #1?

Mm, this is a little tough for me. Where can I find such people? I gotta say, it depends on the sincerity, rapport and willingness of both parties. They can be anywhere, even the girl who is in the queue in front of you and you strike a casual and friendly conversation with, or an existing someone with whom you wish to improve the relationship with.

 

  1. Identify action steps! Based what you’ve written in Step #2, what do you need to do to start meeting such people? Identify specific action steps, and include deadlines where applicable!

Is this referring to expanding my social circle?

Firstly, for existing relationships, be more proactive in daily life, such as with family, friends and colleagues. Also, be more understanding… must always remind myself to take a step back and think in another person’s shoe. But… honestly, that has been what I am always doing, and it does get tiring at times. The other party must bear the similar sentiment to make the relationship a better one. Otherwise, it would be an one-sided constant effort… patience, persistence and time will be the key factors.

As for expanding my social circle, to take part in activities and scout for interest groups. I used to join a Go chess club. It was so much fun! But I have stopped when life is more demanding. Perhaps I should revisit this particular interest. An appropriate time will be when I completed my Graduate Diploma in Positive Psychology. And it would be so cool if I could take up violin and tennis classes again! I remembered it was extremely gratifying when I’m engaged in activities of my interest 😀

Oh, and I would love to meet up with like-minded people on discussing and sharing ways to live a healthier life and have a healthier lifestyle! For some reason, I am currently EXTREMELY interested in this topic and have been implementing positive changes with baby steps into my life right now! :D:D Will share more details in a separate post soon ~

And and and… I WOULD WANNA LEARN TO COOK AND BAKE. Yep, you read me right. I do not know how, but I am VERY interested in learning more now. So I can cook healthier meals for me and my loved ones! Oooh I feel so excited just by the thought of it! Perhaps I shall first start with helping my mom out in the kitchen HAHA.

 

  1. Say today’s affirmation. Close your eyes. Visualize yourself surrounded by a large group of people, all of whom you have conscious relationships with. Imagine yourself chatting, laughing, smiling, and spending time with these people, as you walk hand-in-hand with everyone, through the journey of life. Feel the warmth, happiness, and excitement in your heart. As you do, say the affirmation:

“I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

The Law of Attraction! Work your magic on me! NOW! *ting*

 

My Afterthoughts:

A slightly different approach on the topic of Relationships as I was expecting. It is more of sourcing and creating new and positive relationships instead of working on existing ones. Nevertheless, I never expected myself to mention my old loves: GO chess, tennis and violin! Time to include them in my life again! 🙂

 

You can see more of the actual Day-9 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-9-relationships/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe

Posted in Challenge, Motivational, self-love

Day 8 [Physical Looks]: “I’m beautiful, just the way I am.”

Hi Everyone! How was your weekend? I had an awesome one! 😀 And tomorrow is Monday… too soon! HAHA.

TOMORROW WILL BE AN AWESOME DAY TOO.

OK, done with brainwashing self, onto the Day-8, let’s go~

Day 8: [Physical Looks]

Yep yep, physical looks.

1. Rate yourself in your physical looks on a scale of 1 to 10.

8/10. *coughs*

2. Is this score 10/10? Why not?

Er, it is not. It’s all because of the excess FATS on my face, arms, stomach, and thighs. Nasty thing, but I am not 100% active in eliminating that and all I do was to… complain?! Now, this is awful.

If I dislike the excess fats on me, I should jolly well get my lazy fat a*s out there doing something that will help instead of whining about it. T_T Yeah, I am guilty of it. The caramel chocolate crunch icecream I had today was really… … Guh.

3. Grab a handheld mirror now.

Alrighty, it is right in front of me now. Man, I am b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l, wahaha!

4. Examine your reflection.

Yo, hi pretty. I have to confess, I look at myself in the mirror, like, really look at ME in the mirror pretty often.

5. Recognize your beauty.

OK, I am going to be shameless here. Regardless of the whines about my fats occasionally, I think I am beautiful, no kidding.

6. Say today’s affirmation.

“I’m beautiful, just the way I am.”

My Afterthoughts:

This challenge is not very applicable to me because, shamelessly, I have no issue with my looks. I guess I am luckier than a lot more people out there. In fact, I used to, on and off (jokingly) thanked my parents for giving me a healthy body and pleasant looks, haha 😀 Even though I dislike my fats, I know they would go away if I really take the effort to exercise and eat healthily. They are not permanent. It is all about the mindset. I like the part about looking into the mirror though. I figure that will help a lot of people who belittle themselves… even though I do not understand why anyone would want to do that to themselves. You are beautiful in your ways, and that is true. If you don’t believe in yourself… then no one will. Don’t be too harsh. Be a little gentler to yourself, yes?

 

You can see more of the actual Day-8 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-8-physical-looks/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe

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Day 7 [Opportunities]: “Opportunities are everywhere. It’s up to me to find (or create) them and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

It is now past 12am! I totally missed posting on the 15th itself T_T

Hi Everyone! Happy TGIF!

Are you feeling equally excited as I am now? I have worked from 8.30am to 9pm today and yet I am feeling happy amidst my mental exhaustion… because tomorrow is the long-waited weekend! *throws confetti*

It has been a suuuppppeeer busy week for me. Finally I will be having some time for myself 😀

It’s Day-7 challenge for today, let’s go~

Day 7: [Opportunities]

 

1. Identify an area of your life where you feel blocked by a lack of choices/ opportunities.

It has to be career, finance and health for me.

Career: I am still in a job which is not my ideal career. I am working hard to acquire more knowledge of my interest (positive psychology). Basically, I have been a people-person for my entire work-life, so I cannot simply job-hop to another field and expect to earn the same remuneration… Plus, another issue came into the picture, which is –

Finance: Due to some family issues and personal commitments, I am unable to simply ditch my job with its monthly source of income to indulge myself into a highly possible “income-less” period. Sad, I know, but it is the truth that I need this job right now more than anything else.

Health: As the number of candles on my birthday cakes increases, I noticed that my health isn’t as terrific as it was years back when I was still schooling. I finally taste the bitterness of so many other seniors before me… that I cannot afford to live in such a junk-ful lifestyle anymore. I am becoming more and more health conscience and my biology clock has recently sounded its alarm and I was alarmed! Time to take good care of myself if I want to have a healthy retirement life~

2. Ask yourself, “How can I create the opportunity to succeed in this area?”

Career: Honestly, I thought I am faring pretty well right now, haha. Even though this is not going to be a job which I am going to marry, I am certainly doing my very best at my job right now 😀 And by doing so, I have more opportunities to explore and uncover more of my abilities and capabilities I thought I did not possess. The challenges I am facing and the fact that I am still sticking around with a positive mindset… I’m totally building my resilience level, people! And when my bosses and colleagues trust me more and more… it feels good muhahah 😀

As for my actual ideal career itself… at least I am currently taking up courses to build a stronger foundation? 🙂

Finance: Live a simpler lifestyle. Or at least I am trying to. Or maybe I should come up with some form of concrete plan to do so? It is pretty difficult to find cheap food in the Central Business District (CBD) area, but I believe there are cheaper food, I just need to dig them out 😀 I am beginning to learn on ways which I can start and build some passive incomes. I am so excited to explore this area! And oh, I need to save 10% more of what I am saving now!

Health: Exercise more! Eat healthier! Enough said!

3. Take action on what you’ve written in Step #2!

OMG, so step 3 is on action plans!

Career: I need to get more sleep!

Finance: OK, just drop another dollar into my piggy bank 🙂

Health: … I need to get a new set of gym clothes. Then… morning exercise, here I come! Before this challenge, I am actually seriously contemplating starting my day with a 20 minutes exercise! Gonna be a challenge, YES, but if there are people who can do this, I can, too!

 

4. Say today’s affirmation.

“Close your eyes. For the next 10 to 15 seconds, imagine your ideal vision for this area where you feel felt blocked. Now, visualize yourself breaking through the obstacle(s) and paving the way to realize your ideal vision. Visualize yourself CREATING A PATH, WHERE THE PATH DIDN’T EXIST BEFORE, TO MAKE YOUR VISION COME TO LIFE. CONTINUE THIS VISUALIZATION FOR AS LONG AS YOU DESIRE, until the vision is fully etched in your mind.”

“Opportunities are everywhere.
It’s up to me to find them (or create them) and
MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

My Afterthoughts:

The italic quote of point 4 is of course, original text as advised by Celes in the original Day-7 challenge post.

If I am not wrong, this is something like NLP, and I thought it works well on me 😀 So many paths I can take, so many “starting points” which I can choose from, but my mind naturally selects the one starting point for me! And when I follow the instruction to visualise further, I see results! So, this is how I could walk my path to my ideal life! 😀

Any obstacles are opportunities in life which give you the chances to challenge yourself!

You can see more of the actual Day-7 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-7-opportunities/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

Posted in Challenge, gratitude, Motivational, positive, self-doubt, self-love, self-worth

Day 6 [Self-Worth]: “I’m worthy of love, success, and happiness.”

Day-6! Woohoo!

My 15-day positive affirmation challenge finally comes alive! *muhaha*

Cut the crap, let’s jump straight into –

Day 6 [Self-Worth]

  1. Identify an area of your life where you are experiencing some self-doubt now.

“This may be an area where you’ve felt negative about all your life. It may be an area where you didn’t feel negative about before, but you are starting to due to one negative setback after another.”

I would say… money. I came to realize that I have a spendthrift kind of financial blueprint. I could earn X amount in a month, and I can manage to spend close to X amount halfway through the month. This is bad. Even though my wages should allow me to save a reasonably sum of monies on a monthly basis, I manage to get myself caught in installment plans such as insurances, beauty-related programs, educational programs… they make me feel that money is not enough!

  1. Identify your dream vision for this area.

OH! Dream vision, we are talking about dream vision, yeah? It is to be financially free and I can afford to spend without guilt! I want more time to do the things I love without worrying about money.

  1. Create your affirmative belief in this area, in the form of “I deserve [dream vision].”

I DESERVE TO BE FINANCIALLY FREE SO I CAN SPEND WITHOUT GUILT AND LIVE MY LIFE THE WAY I WANT IT TO BE!

  1. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I’m worthy of love, success, and happiness.”

I am worthy of love, success and happiness. I deserve to be financially free so that I can live my life the way I want and spend without guilt!

My Afterthoughts:

OK, “self-worth” is a relatively big topic. It actually took me a little time to think of the areas which I feel the most dissatisfied with myself. I guess this is a good thing? That I actually need time to identify?

Honestly speaking, I have tons of things about myself that I wish for the better. My weight aka my flabby arms/ tummy/ thighs, my sensitive skin, my dark eye circles, I-think-too-much, money and etc.

They can be better, but I don’t hate myself. Yes, I do have points and areas where I can improve on, but generally I feel lucky and fortunate enough to be “me”. I am born healthy, pleasant looking, relatively good height for a female (I am 164 -5cm), always have good human relationships with the people I meet, decent job, habour dreams and am working towards them in baby steps, love to read and write and the list can go on and on forever.

This topic of “self-worth” can be linked to so many other subjects. Most importantly, I personally think that Gratitude and Self-love go hand-in-hand with Self-worth.

Have a thankful heart in everything and with everything and you will realize that the world is a so much better and more beautiful place to be in.

So… how is your Self-Worth like for you?

You can see more of the actual Day-6 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-6-self-worth/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

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The Comeback!

FINALLY. I can update, now!

Hi Everyone! I am so, SO sorry! I don’t know if anyone is waiting, but I am really sorry for taking such a long time to update. *shoots self*

Too many things have happened in the past… gosh, exactly three weeks since I last posted.

I don’t intend to seem like I am finding excuses to justify my absence, but I feel the need to… at least explain the reasons for my absence, albeit I shouldn’t 😦

On and off, I have been working beyond my usual working hours for the past one month, some family issues and two pressing assignments to be completed… I wish I have an additional eight more hours per day!

I feel very bad for, a lack of better word, “ditching” this blog. I mean, life happens to anyone, and if having this blog is what I want and am passionate about, I must be responsible, yes?

T__T
T__T

I feel extremely bad that I have left the 15-day positive affirmation left hanging in the midair. I feel bad towards Celes whom I have pledged to commit, I fee bad towards my readers whom I have promised to commit, and I feel bad towards myself for whom I have promised to commit too. To be honest, there were a few occasions when I have the chance to blog… but I didn’t. Life happens and I am positive that I was not in the right frame of mind to blog. Words did not flow as naturally as they normally would when I’m in a better frame of mind and emotions. I just felt that… whatever I wrote at that point of time with that discouraging frame of mind is going to be awful. That would be so not right for this blog, yo! I strongly believe in even plain text carries emotions which will in turn affect the people who are reading them… so, yeah.

So! *cough* I will continue with the 15-day positive affirmation (of course!) from tomorrow onwards on a daily two-to-three-days (…life…) basis until I complete the challenge! I have so many more things that I am itching to share when I was away from this blog! So many things have happened around me, on me, within me! I waaaaaaaaannnttt to write everything in the speed of light right now! But I can’t, and I won’t, because bedtime is near~

*hint: sleeping by 11pm is one of the things I am burning to share, haha!*

Yep, bedtime is near, it is almost 11pm in Singapore and I can’t wait to continue with the challenge tomorrow! (guess it would be past 11pm by the time I got this posted LOL)

Tomorrow is Thursday, people! Hang in there, the sweet weekend is near 😀

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

See ya tomorrow 😀

Chloe ❤

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Day 5 [Gratitude]: “I’m grateful for everything in my life.”

Hi Everyone!

OK… Day 5 came extremely late, and I am totally guilty of it.

I admit I do have chances to continue with the 15 Days Affirmation Challenge for the past 10 days, but I did not. I was… busy with life, and was (am) feeling mentally exhausted. Not the right state of mind to continue with the challenge because it would all be but half-heartedness. And that is the last thing I want it to happen to the challenge.

So, hope you would forgive me (if you have been waiting at all) T_T!

OK, there are just SO many things to talk about of the Day-5 affirmation, and it’s my personal favourtite just by looking at the topic! Without further ado, let’s begin, yo!

 

Day 5 [Gratitude]

1. Identify three things that you tend to take for granted.
i. Definitely the people who love me. And they are usually the people I love too. The categories of people who topped this list has to be my family. They are always there for me. Well, not like they can choose to not having me as their family member (haha), but they tend to be more lenient towards me. I can show the ugliest side of myself with complete assurance that they would just accept it and never turn their backs at me (albeit with curses and swears). And I definitely owe them my life and yet… they are the people I seem to thank the least 😦 Gonna change that now!
ii. The fact that I am alive and breathing. Most of us tend to wake up every working morning, either dreading the day or cursing the day. Me, for one, do not wake up jumping out of bed and celebrating another day’s of life. Bad start of the day, eh?
iii. My health. Recently, my health started to sound the alarm, and I was alarmed. Good health is one thing I always take for granted, and I feed myself with rubbish food, sleep at ungodly hour only to be sleep-derived the next morning and started the day with negativity, and think I am young and healthy enough to not rely on regular exercise to keep my good health. Argh. Am totally regretting my absurd teen years now.

 

2. Identify 10 things that you are grateful for in your life.
i. My family. Without them, I wouldn’t be here. Period.
ii. Myself. I am thankful that I love myself. I am thankful that I appreciate me. I am thankful for the eyes to see, the nose to smell, the mouth to talk and eat, the ears to listen, the heart to beat… you get the drift.
iii. My friends. They spice up my life, and we trust each other in times of crisis. I am thankful to have groups of trusted and close peers!
iv. My boyfriend. He has opened my eyes and mind on financial blueprint and alot more things. I am thankful that he is a loving and supportive man 🙂
v. The earth; the sun, the wind, the rain. I am so, so thankful for the air to breathe, the beautiful place to reside, and so many more to be grateful for. Thank you for having me here! Earlier this year, for months we did not have a single drop of rain in Singapore. We are a Garden City and I recalled how traumatised I have felt when I saw the grasses and trees turn brown and wither, and how the soil cracked from dryness. I was seriously overcome with sadness. And when it finally rained, we rejoiced!
vi. My job. It is not my complete passion, but it opens doors. I am a stronger person with greater resilience, and I am extremely grateful for the chance to accept the challenge and grow bigger than the obstacle. I felt accomplished and the more I uncover unimaginable things about myself, the more I love me more.
vii. Singapore. I am thankful to be born in Singapore, and not any where else where Education, clean water, a roof over my head and plenty food on the table are luxuries and not mandatory.
viii. My passion to read and write. Reading has made up a huge and important part of my life in unimaginable ways. I feel thankful that I love to read.
ix. Future. I am thankful to have ideas on the directions which I can grow to become in the future.
x. Now. I am extremely thankful for Now. I am alive and breathing now and that is the most important thing to feel grateful for.

 

3. Identify ONE thing you can do TODAY to express gratitude to any one item on your list.
OK, instead of “today” (since now is close to 11.30pm), I shall list one thing which I am going to do “tomorrow”.
I am going to jump out of bed feeling grateful and elated and full of energy instead of dragging my limp body out of bed! Hey, don’t judge me, I think this is a HUGE challenge 😀

 

4. Say today’s affirmation.

“I’m grateful for everything in my life.”

THANK YOU!

 

 

My Afterthoughts:

Gratitude is one very positive emotion which is incredibly important to have and to practise in everyday life. If a person feels no gratitude, not even the slightest in everyday life, this person is basically a very, very unhappy person.

I am a happy person, yeah! 😀

 

You can see more of the actual Day-5 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-5-gratitude/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe

Posted in Challenge, Chloe, Motivational

Day 4 [Setbacks]: “I’ve the power to overcome any obstacle that stands in my way.”

Heeeellloooo Everyone!

Here comes Day-4!

 

Day 4: [Setbacks]

 

Oh, my, holy… cow!

Setbacks! Setbacks! Do we have to do this?

BRING IT ON. *thrust chest forward*

 

1. Identify an obstacle you’re facing currently.

OK. This is going to be a long and stinky story. HAHA. Ready? Where’s your popcorns?

So, by now, you should know that I am working (albeit slowly) towards being a coach in the future. My lifetime dream job is to make the people around me feeling happier and happier on their own. I hope for them to be aware of their capabilities to be happy even in every day’s life. ESPECIALLY in their every day’s lives.

Regardless of you being happy or sad, life still goes on, so why not choose to take on life in a happier mood?

OK, I am digressing. So, I aim to becoming a coach who will specialise in Positive Psychology in near (hopefully) future.

But there are obstaclessss appearing already!

It’s the Money. No kidding, yep, we are talking about the big M here (not McDonald’s!).

I do not know how is it like to be a full-time coach nor do I know much a person can earn from being a full-time coach (cum all the many other things I want to do too :D), but being a fairly low-risked human, I hope to have a reasonable sum of mony (for survival) for my transition period. I’m not talking about a hundred thousand dollars here. It would be a fairly reasonable and attainable sum *cough*

But well, just when I am looking at saving this sum of money and feeling so excited and jittery about my bling bling future at the same time… BAM. Incidents happened.

  1. I have given myself a certain timeline to earn that enough money at my current job. And I am faced with stress at work => affecting health => worried = > double stress. My team used to consist of nine people. Since February this year until now, 4 have left (of whom 2 are my closest colleagues), 1 is leaving, 1 might be leaving soon. <insert mind-screams> WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE! <end of mind-screams> So you see; my initial plan was to stay for at least another year at this job. But now, with the shortage of manpower cum my best and closest colleagues left cum increased workload cum peak period of the year… .
  2. My parents are… in the middle of a… huge disagreement which will result in a separation. Coming soon, yo! So, all the more I need the BIG M. And that means I cannot afford to be a full-time self-employed person. As of now. That steady source of income… I hate to admit it, but it is crucial to me and my family at this point of time.
  3. I am honestly not the best person to manage finances at the moment. That is because I have my course fees to pay and some other installments such as insurances and etc. Ah… I need more monies!

OK, so I am supposed to identify a single obstacle, and I did 3 of them, haha. THIS IS GOING TO BE A LONG POST, TSK.

 

2. Identify action(s) to overcome this obstacle.

Reframing. Yep, this is something which I have been using, and am still using right now. At least, it makes me feel positive towards this job. I am so VERY proud of myself for staying onto this job… and still planning to hang on longer! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU, CHLOE SIM! You go, girl! 😀 (giving encouragements to yourself is very important too!)

People say that cognitive reframing doesn’t last long . Personally, I think it can last pretty long, depending on how you reframe your mind and adjust your mindset. And how frequently you do that. HAHA does it sound like brainwashing yourself?

And this leads to the next step! 😀

 

3. Create new positive belief(s) to help you overcome this obstacle.

No kidding. I am a living (HAHA, though still on-going) example of this.

It can be extremely low morale to work in an environment where there is tons of work to be done, you got to meet deadlines every single day, lack of communication with the bosses and yet people are leaving. And you know that you are going to take on even MORE workload because there are lesser people around now! And and and, to top it off, the people who are leaving are the people who you have fun with the most, who you love the most and who you think are the most dependable colleagues.

It really isn’t easy.

Not to mention, to commute to work is a long and tiring journey. Every morning feels like a battle commuting to work. I squeeze in the bus, pull myself out from the can of packed sardines, only to flung myself into another bigger can of sardines aka squeeze in the train. I basically brisk-walked in superb mode all the way to work from the moment I step out of my house. I was drained by the time I reached the office. And then the next long battle begins for the next 9 hours. There was to a point where I hated the morning battle so much that I have the strongest urge to leave my job just so I can end this *wave arm around*.

But I hadn’t.

Why are some people always job-hopping? That is because they do not know what they want from the job. In almost every single job, you would definitely feel tired and sick of it. You would definitely feel like you are under (boredom) / over (stressed) challenged and wish for a change in environment. But every job is the same; if you do not know your purpose of being in this job.

At least, this works for me. I recognise my negative thoughts streaming like volcano lavas every single day. And then one day, I simply put a stop to them. I bring down the entire North Pole on them. OK, not funny. I brainstormed with myself, the pros and cons of staying, and I realised that the pros are material benefits whereas the cons are just being too emotional.

Isn’t being happy the most important thing? You might ask. Yes, it is, of course! But there are short-term happiness and long-term happiness. One got to weigh, at crucial times.

What do I need the most now? The material benefits. Come along in a package would be my long-term happiness. I have looked around and realised that this job offers me the best monetary deal for what paper qualifications I have currently. If I were to leave this place, I would:

a.      Spend a longer time to save up the sum of money which I have planed;
b.      New environment: got to build up the rapport with people from scratch.

I don’t plan to stay in the rat race for long, so why do I want to switch to a job which would require me to spending unnecessary amount of time and energy on areas where I could avoid?

I see myself as building up more and more RESILIENCE within myself. I have tuned my mindset in such a way that, I am so very, very curious as to how far I can go (aka stay longer) at this job. Hey, Curiosity can be a very important positive emotion!

At this job where people are expecting me to leave at any time soon because, well, just because, but I am hanging on! And managed to enjoy myself while I am hanging by the edge of the cliff, haha!

I believe that having a purpose or an agenda in every thing that you do or circumstance is extremely important. That is because I believe that at times of setbacks or darkness, the purpose, the WHY (why are you in this job in the first place? Why do you choose this XXX in the first place?) will be the beacon of light. The WHY will act as a buffer; it will be the reason you are able to hang on just a little bit more so as to achieve your desired outcome. Yes, you are doing all these for no one else, but for yourself! Never forget that! 😀

Of course, if the cons heavily outweigh the pros… pushing yourself to hang on further might not be a good thing.

I can go on writing more and more but… another day perhaps~ 😀

To conclude this step, I believe that having positive beliefs are extremely important. They lead the way you shape subsequent thoughts. And we all know that thoughts => actions => results. We do not want one negative thought to ruin a supposedly good result or results, don’t we?
 

4. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I’ve the power to overcome any obstacle that stands in my way.”

 

My Afterthoughts:

I knew it! I knew this would be long!
But I’m loving it! Do you? 😀
You can see the actual affirmation challenge post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-4-setbacks/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe

Posted in Challenge, Chloe, Motivational

Day 3 [Ability]: “I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

Hi Everyone!

Sorry, I was away for a day, and now I have four days of affirmation challenges to catch up! Nfsjfsfskfnskfnsk

Randomness aside, let my Day-3 begin, yo!

 

Day 3: [Ability]

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

 

Aha! I was one of the many victims of self-doubting my abilities right until last year. I have many dreams but I let my scary-cat self get the better of me – or rather, my ability.

I thought I was just an ordinary woman… do my dreams matter to the world or even to the people around me? Would it affect me? So what if I do not set my heart to realizing them?

I even thought that I could never, ever achieve anything (minus the stuff which I haven’t achieved yet due to procrastination… uh oh).

But that, has changed tremendously ever since the start of Year 2014 😀

 

1. Identify a goal/dream that you’re blocking yourself in currently.

 

I used to have a lot of dreams which I was blocking them with my very own hands. But I came to understand that only me and my mind can do funny tricks to myself. My attendance at the 2014 National Achievers Congress has made me even more determined to fight till the very end in life. I mean, hey, it’s MY LIFE. If I don’t take charge, who could do that for me?

That being said… right now, there’s only one left which will still do an occasional peek-a-boo on me. Yep, I am trying hard to overcome this:

I might not be a good speaker and a coach.

 

2. Identify your self-limiting belief(s) in this goal/dream.

 

My spoken English is not good enough to be a speaker.

Who would engage my services as a Life Coach in Positive Psychology?

Ok, regarding the first point on my self-belittling belief system on my English language, I have some confidence issue when it comes to this area. Growing up in a Mandarin speaking family, I think I speak way better Mandarin than English. Even though I have people around me telling me that my English is good enough than average Singaporeans, I am still not very convinced. Perhaps it was due to a few “humiliating” incidents when I was younger… Somehow while growing up, I have a lot of friends around me who are very fluent in speaking English. There were a few incidents when I have mispronounced words, and I felt ashamed. These most likely resulted in me having low self-confidence in speaking English. I tend to fumble with the words on my tongue! Urgh.

As for the point on being a coach, I have all the fears and doubts. Even though I have friends around me who have more confidence in me than I have in myself, I still have these self-doubts on my ability to becoming a coach. I think… I was worried and afraid that I wouldn’t be able to help my clients in the way I want to help them.

 

3. Change this self-limiting belief(s).

 

Don’t be shy Chloe, just speak out loud! If you know you tend to speak at a very fast pace hence making the words fumble even more, slow down! You don’t want to get a ticket for speeding! … OK that was lame randomness.

Yep, so what if I sound like an idiot (OK, I seriously don’t think I am so bad to this extent but, you know) when I speak in English? Just put more consciousness into it when speaking English to people! Don’t get intimidated by your past experiences! And. Speak. S-l-o-w-e-r. Don’t always talk like you are gonna catch a train =.=

As for the coaching part, you know you can do it! You have all the people around you proving to you that you can do it! You already have plans on becoming a coach, just follow through and you shall see for yourself!

Aja Aja fighting!

 

4. Identify action step(s) you’re going to take to realize this goal/dream.

 

OK, finally something I can hold my head high 😀

I have signed up for a public speaking course and will be attending it in early August… woot!

I am currently taking up the diploma in Positive Psychology, the crucial component to becoming the coach that I want to be in the future.

Looking good, Chloe! 😀

 

5. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

 

OK, spoken out loud cum screamed in my head 😀

 

My Afterthoughts:

 

It is a nasty thing to admit to yourself the things that are bothering you. Especially when you just want to turn a blind eye to these hidden issues until they really surface as problem (usually at crucial times).

But I’m glad I did, in writing and sharing. Especially when I continue writing the action plans to change the negative beliefs, I feel more assured 😀

LOL. I felt like I was reprimanding myself though. Yep, I need a good scolding, by myself! Look at what kind of rubbish I have been telling myself and making myself believe in these kind of trash. Tsk tsk tsk.

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it!: This is definitely gonna be a true story which I would be telling people in the future 😀

You can see more of the actual Day-3 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-3-ability/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe

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Day 2 [Self-Love]: “I love myself unconditionally.”

Hello there!

The sky was pouring now as I was writing this and I love weathers like this (especially when I was snuggling at home :D)!

I have just completed my Day-1 positive affirmative in Celes’ 15-Day Affirmations Challenge 🙂

OK, I gotta catch up with the rest (currently at Day-4), let’s go~!

 

Day 2: [Self-Love]

 

1. Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have.

Mm…OK. Honestly speaking, I do speak bad of myself on occasions, and they always center around my flabby arms, swimming-float-like tummy, big thighs and cellulite.

I complain of these areas, I wish they would all be two sizes smaller, but I don’t hate myself.

Simply put, I love myself too much to bear such strong negative feelings towards myself! 😀

 

2. Identify the reason behind this self-hate.

Oh! I want to look like a supermodel. I have a girl-crush on Miranda Kerr.

We are so heavily influenced (aka brainwashed) by the media nowadays that we cannot seem to forgive ourselves if we cannot squeeze into a size 2 dress 😮

Bad, I know, but who has really given a two cents worth of thought into this? It has been coded into our DNA that even if we knew that being able to fit into a size 2 dress is not everything, we still yearn it. We see it as a form of confidence boost. Having a supermodel body would raise the confidence bar to a sky-high extent,I believe, but do we really need this to define ourselves? So what is going on with our self-worth?

And not to mention that there are drastic people doing drastic measures just so as to achieve that kind of results!

But for lazy people like me, all I do is to complain, exercise once a week, try not to eat too much of McDonald’s in a month and that’s all. Can I even fit into a size 8 dress? HAHA.

Of course I do admit that at times, when I look at those pretty dresses which would only look good if they are three sizes smaller than me, I would wish for a sexier body~ Sexy lady eh!

 

3. Change your self-hating thoughts.

Body is only a shell (or so I am telling myself). I believe that I am one in a million. I am born to achieve greatness! HAHA.

 

4. Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today.

If this shell is what is bothering me, then I better do something about it. No point whining and complaining and yet allow the weeds to grow like wild fire, yes?

I am currently exercising once a week (Zumba). I aim to also jog… once a week. And I dislike jogging so much! But it is a low cost method which I believed would train my mind. Yep.

I am planning to take up Yogilates (yoga cum pilates) once a week too. I once went for eight classes and then I stopped. The classes were on Saturday mornings! *face palm* Well… I guess this is one way to train my mind too.

The reason for wanting to take up Yogilates is because Yoga is all about stretching the body (deskbound job kills practically any body) and training the mind. Pilates is all about shedding some fats, yo!

Trying to lose some kilograms aside, I strongly believe in leading a healthier lifestyle equals loving yourself. I am currently cutting down on fried food, sugars, salts, meat and the list goes on. Basically, I am increasing my intake of fruits and vegetables 😀 And it feels. So. Good! No kidding! Will blog about it on another day 🙂

 

5HUG YOURSELF.

*hugged tight*

 

6.   Say your new belief(s) and affirmation. Then, with your arms still hugging your body, say your new belief(s) out loud, along with today’s affirmation:

“I love myself unconditionally.”

 

 

My Afterthoughts:

This affirmation is not very applicable to me right now. It might, however, in rainy days (not literally).

The hugging part is unexpected though. If you felt some stretching going on during the self-hugging people, then I believe you are on the right track 😀

You can see the actual affirmation challenge post here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-2-self-love/
 

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe ❤

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Day 1 [New Beginning]: “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”

Hi everyone!

I am so excited to begin; I have just voiced out my decision to participate in Celes’ 15-Day Affirmations Challenge 🙂

There will be every-day affirmations followed by specific tasks/ questions to complete or to answer. I will be blogging all 15 affirmations which I would be performing in here. At the end of each task-of-the-day, I will provide my two cents worth on how I feel about the day’s challenge and how it has impacted me (positive, negative or neutral).

It was already Day-4 when I participated. I have pondered if I should begin from Day-4’s task where the current challenge is at now, or should I start from Day-1 instead.

After consideration, I decided to begin from Day-1. Even though I would love to start from Day-4’s task so as to be at real time with all the other participants, I thought there must be a reason for such sequence of the affirmations/ tasks. Why disrupt it for myself? So! I decided to start from Day-1’s affirmation instead 😀

OK! Let me just copy and paste the topic here…:

 

#AffirmationChallenge Day 1 [New Beginning]: “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”

 

It is a 5-pointer task, with 4 questions and 1 action.

Let’s have the drum roll~ Dummmm…~ *having fun all by myself*

 

1. What are ONE area of your life where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in?

If it was the “me” in the past, I would probably list a ton of stuff which I think I have been limiting myself/ felt limited in.

The first on the list got to be me constantly worrying about my future success rate. I have doubts on myself. There are things that I want to do, the results I want to achieve and the life I want to live. I had a classmate who is a pastor, he said his mission statement in life is to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”.

I think it is awesome. How many people nowadays dare to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”?

Too many of us have fear, and still do. We fear of the unforeseen future, we doubt our “capabilities” and “abilities” to achieve. Some fear to dream, some do not even dream.

How saddening.

A dream is what makes a person comes alive. Without dreams, there is no clear direction in life, and I would expect one to develop self-doubt feelings and prevents one from feeling the greatest sense of self-satisfaction.

My self-doubt on my future is my greatest limitation. I have a lot of dreams, but I always used to allow fear to cripple me. But now, I am training my “go whack ‘em!” muscle so that I can use it whenever I feel fear and self-doubt creeping up on me 😀

So! I will be a writer!

A life coach specialising in positive psychology!

A great daughter!

A loving wife and a caring mother!

An entrepreneur!

A speaker!

And most importantly, a person with a humble heart and compassionate spirit 🙂

 

2. What is the belief statement you’ve been harboring in this area? And is it serving/helping you to accomplish your goal?

I always believed that I am never good enough to be all of the above mentioned. I always believed that I am just a very ordinary woman who might never get a chance to change the “world”. I had always believed that I would never master the skills that I want in order to achieve my dreams.

Also, I think the people around me have more or less contributed to my negative belief system. My family thought that it would be good enough to have a monthly steady paycheck. Any attempt to do something different is “jeopardising” my future. I guess this is a pretty common experience a lot of us have? Granted we love our family and friends, but our lives and dreams are solely ours to live and achieve. To put it bluntly, how have such of their philosophies helped them so far?

Of course all these negative beliefs have done me more harm than good. I have wasted 5 years of my life prior to now thinking that I can never be good enough. It is like poison, and I literally am belittling myself for thinking so. What greatness could come out of these?

I am so glad that I have awakened 😀

 

3. Change this belief(s). Given that the belief from #2 is limiting, what empowering belief(s) can you change it to?

Whenever I begin to develop self-doubts, I will constantly remind myself of my desires and dreams by asking myself a very simple question:

If I were to stop now just because I was so scared and worried, would I be contented with a mundane and meaningless life? Would I die if I fail upon trying?

And you bet; the answer is always a big NO!

 

4. Identify your action step(s) to make the change!

I am going to take albeit baby steps to achieve my milestone-goals so that my dream would not look so daunting!

I am currently taking up a diploma in Positive Psychology. It is one step to equip myself with the basic knowledge that I would need to become a life coach 🙂

I am also actively attending seminars which would broaden my mind and help me being an entrepreneur.

I already have ideas for my book(s), and all I need is to put them into words! I will complete a book by the end of this year HAHA 😀

 

5.  Say your new belief out loud, along with today’s affirmation:

“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”

OK, have said out loudly!

 

My Afterthoughts:

The first question was surprisingly tough to answer. The one person whom you can never succeed in lying to is oneself. Hence, I feel that the first question was a very “raw” question; it forces you to say your flaw out loud. The more difficult it is to admit aloud to the area which you feel that you have been limiting yourself, the bigger the issue is.

The subsequent questions are fairly easy to answer. Perhaps due to I am already at the stage of cancelling my past negative beliefs and implementing new ones, the responses come naturally to me 😀

Overall, I feel that this is a good exercise; it is a step-by-step guide to leading us come into a conclusion with ourselves.

Can’t wait to do the Day-2!

You can see the actual affirmation challenge post here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-1-new-beginning/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

 

Chloe ❤