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Day 9 [Relationships]: “I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

Heya Everybody!

How was your week so far? TOMORROW IS THE FRIDAY! *throws confetti*

It’s getting late, am feeling tired and drained, but I have not been posting for a few days… and so 😦

Work is really taking its toll on me, but I am still hanging on, hahaha 😀

And I hope you are, too 🙂

A piece of good news (?): I am currently in the midst of writing a looong post of some tips on a particular subject. It is getting super long because I am very excited and passionate about writing it haha! I can’t wait to finish it and share with you people soon!

OK, stop the random talk, Day-9, let’s go~

 

Day 9: [Relationships]

LOL. Funny how I chose of all days to work on my Day 9 challenge. And I swear I did not know it is going to be on Relationships. Lately… relationships seem to be the one thing which is issuing me a challenge of life. Handling abrupt changes, balancing, and finding peace not only with others but also within myself.

Ah… relationships.

No man is an island, yeah?

 

  1. Identify your ideal relationship.

In an amicable, supportive, open and honest relationship that is full of love and trust with the people around me. Especially the close ones, the loved ones.

 

  1. Identify places where you can find such people. (With the exception of our family which we can’t change,) Where can you find the kind of people who matche (match) what you mentioned in Step #1?

Mm, this is a little tough for me. Where can I find such people? I gotta say, it depends on the sincerity, rapport and willingness of both parties. They can be anywhere, even the girl who is in the queue in front of you and you strike a casual and friendly conversation with, or an existing someone with whom you wish to improve the relationship with.

 

  1. Identify action steps! Based what you’ve written in Step #2, what do you need to do to start meeting such people? Identify specific action steps, and include deadlines where applicable!

Is this referring to expanding my social circle?

Firstly, for existing relationships, be more proactive in daily life, such as with family, friends and colleagues. Also, be more understanding… must always remind myself to take a step back and think in another person’s shoe. But… honestly, that has been what I am always doing, and it does get tiring at times. The other party must bear the similar sentiment to make the relationship a better one. Otherwise, it would be an one-sided constant effort… patience, persistence and time will be the key factors.

As for expanding my social circle, to take part in activities and scout for interest groups. I used to join a Go chess club. It was so much fun! But I have stopped when life is more demanding. Perhaps I should revisit this particular interest. An appropriate time will be when I completed my Graduate Diploma in Positive Psychology. And it would be so cool if I could take up violin and tennis classes again! I remembered it was extremely gratifying when I’m engaged in activities of my interest 😀

Oh, and I would love to meet up with like-minded people on discussing and sharing ways to live a healthier life and have a healthier lifestyle! For some reason, I am currently EXTREMELY interested in this topic and have been implementing positive changes with baby steps into my life right now! :D:D Will share more details in a separate post soon ~

And and and… I WOULD WANNA LEARN TO COOK AND BAKE. Yep, you read me right. I do not know how, but I am VERY interested in learning more now. So I can cook healthier meals for me and my loved ones! Oooh I feel so excited just by the thought of it! Perhaps I shall first start with helping my mom out in the kitchen HAHA.

 

  1. Say today’s affirmation. Close your eyes. Visualize yourself surrounded by a large group of people, all of whom you have conscious relationships with. Imagine yourself chatting, laughing, smiling, and spending time with these people, as you walk hand-in-hand with everyone, through the journey of life. Feel the warmth, happiness, and excitement in your heart. As you do, say the affirmation:

“I’m in conscious relationships that elevate and support me.”

The Law of Attraction! Work your magic on me! NOW! *ting*

 

My Afterthoughts:

A slightly different approach on the topic of Relationships as I was expecting. It is more of sourcing and creating new and positive relationships instead of working on existing ones. Nevertheless, I never expected myself to mention my old loves: GO chess, tennis and violin! Time to include them in my life again! 🙂

 

You can see more of the actual Day-9 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-9-relationships/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe

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Day 8 [Physical Looks]: “I’m beautiful, just the way I am.”

Hi Everyone! How was your weekend? I had an awesome one! 😀 And tomorrow is Monday… too soon! HAHA.

TOMORROW WILL BE AN AWESOME DAY TOO.

OK, done with brainwashing self, onto the Day-8, let’s go~

Day 8: [Physical Looks]

Yep yep, physical looks.

1. Rate yourself in your physical looks on a scale of 1 to 10.

8/10. *coughs*

2. Is this score 10/10? Why not?

Er, it is not. It’s all because of the excess FATS on my face, arms, stomach, and thighs. Nasty thing, but I am not 100% active in eliminating that and all I do was to… complain?! Now, this is awful.

If I dislike the excess fats on me, I should jolly well get my lazy fat a*s out there doing something that will help instead of whining about it. T_T Yeah, I am guilty of it. The caramel chocolate crunch icecream I had today was really… … Guh.

3. Grab a handheld mirror now.

Alrighty, it is right in front of me now. Man, I am b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l, wahaha!

4. Examine your reflection.

Yo, hi pretty. I have to confess, I look at myself in the mirror, like, really look at ME in the mirror pretty often.

5. Recognize your beauty.

OK, I am going to be shameless here. Regardless of the whines about my fats occasionally, I think I am beautiful, no kidding.

6. Say today’s affirmation.

“I’m beautiful, just the way I am.”

My Afterthoughts:

This challenge is not very applicable to me because, shamelessly, I have no issue with my looks. I guess I am luckier than a lot more people out there. In fact, I used to, on and off (jokingly) thanked my parents for giving me a healthy body and pleasant looks, haha 😀 Even though I dislike my fats, I know they would go away if I really take the effort to exercise and eat healthily. They are not permanent. It is all about the mindset. I like the part about looking into the mirror though. I figure that will help a lot of people who belittle themselves… even though I do not understand why anyone would want to do that to themselves. You are beautiful in your ways, and that is true. If you don’t believe in yourself… then no one will. Don’t be too harsh. Be a little gentler to yourself, yes?

 

You can see more of the actual Day-8 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-8-physical-looks/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe

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Day 7 [Opportunities]: “Opportunities are everywhere. It’s up to me to find (or create) them and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

It is now past 12am! I totally missed posting on the 15th itself T_T

Hi Everyone! Happy TGIF!

Are you feeling equally excited as I am now? I have worked from 8.30am to 9pm today and yet I am feeling happy amidst my mental exhaustion… because tomorrow is the long-waited weekend! *throws confetti*

It has been a suuuppppeeer busy week for me. Finally I will be having some time for myself 😀

It’s Day-7 challenge for today, let’s go~

Day 7: [Opportunities]

 

1. Identify an area of your life where you feel blocked by a lack of choices/ opportunities.

It has to be career, finance and health for me.

Career: I am still in a job which is not my ideal career. I am working hard to acquire more knowledge of my interest (positive psychology). Basically, I have been a people-person for my entire work-life, so I cannot simply job-hop to another field and expect to earn the same remuneration… Plus, another issue came into the picture, which is –

Finance: Due to some family issues and personal commitments, I am unable to simply ditch my job with its monthly source of income to indulge myself into a highly possible “income-less” period. Sad, I know, but it is the truth that I need this job right now more than anything else.

Health: As the number of candles on my birthday cakes increases, I noticed that my health isn’t as terrific as it was years back when I was still schooling. I finally taste the bitterness of so many other seniors before me… that I cannot afford to live in such a junk-ful lifestyle anymore. I am becoming more and more health conscience and my biology clock has recently sounded its alarm and I was alarmed! Time to take good care of myself if I want to have a healthy retirement life~

2. Ask yourself, “How can I create the opportunity to succeed in this area?”

Career: Honestly, I thought I am faring pretty well right now, haha. Even though this is not going to be a job which I am going to marry, I am certainly doing my very best at my job right now 😀 And by doing so, I have more opportunities to explore and uncover more of my abilities and capabilities I thought I did not possess. The challenges I am facing and the fact that I am still sticking around with a positive mindset… I’m totally building my resilience level, people! And when my bosses and colleagues trust me more and more… it feels good muhahah 😀

As for my actual ideal career itself… at least I am currently taking up courses to build a stronger foundation? 🙂

Finance: Live a simpler lifestyle. Or at least I am trying to. Or maybe I should come up with some form of concrete plan to do so? It is pretty difficult to find cheap food in the Central Business District (CBD) area, but I believe there are cheaper food, I just need to dig them out 😀 I am beginning to learn on ways which I can start and build some passive incomes. I am so excited to explore this area! And oh, I need to save 10% more of what I am saving now!

Health: Exercise more! Eat healthier! Enough said!

3. Take action on what you’ve written in Step #2!

OMG, so step 3 is on action plans!

Career: I need to get more sleep!

Finance: OK, just drop another dollar into my piggy bank 🙂

Health: … I need to get a new set of gym clothes. Then… morning exercise, here I come! Before this challenge, I am actually seriously contemplating starting my day with a 20 minutes exercise! Gonna be a challenge, YES, but if there are people who can do this, I can, too!

 

4. Say today’s affirmation.

“Close your eyes. For the next 10 to 15 seconds, imagine your ideal vision for this area where you feel felt blocked. Now, visualize yourself breaking through the obstacle(s) and paving the way to realize your ideal vision. Visualize yourself CREATING A PATH, WHERE THE PATH DIDN’T EXIST BEFORE, TO MAKE YOUR VISION COME TO LIFE. CONTINUE THIS VISUALIZATION FOR AS LONG AS YOU DESIRE, until the vision is fully etched in your mind.”

“Opportunities are everywhere.
It’s up to me to find them (or create them) and
MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.”

My Afterthoughts:

The italic quote of point 4 is of course, original text as advised by Celes in the original Day-7 challenge post.

If I am not wrong, this is something like NLP, and I thought it works well on me 😀 So many paths I can take, so many “starting points” which I can choose from, but my mind naturally selects the one starting point for me! And when I follow the instruction to visualise further, I see results! So, this is how I could walk my path to my ideal life! 😀

Any obstacles are opportunities in life which give you the chances to challenge yourself!

You can see more of the actual Day-7 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-7-opportunities/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

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Day 6 [Self-Worth]: “I’m worthy of love, success, and happiness.”

Day-6! Woohoo!

My 15-day positive affirmation challenge finally comes alive! *muhaha*

Cut the crap, let’s jump straight into –

Day 6 [Self-Worth]

  1. Identify an area of your life where you are experiencing some self-doubt now.

“This may be an area where you’ve felt negative about all your life. It may be an area where you didn’t feel negative about before, but you are starting to due to one negative setback after another.”

I would say… money. I came to realize that I have a spendthrift kind of financial blueprint. I could earn X amount in a month, and I can manage to spend close to X amount halfway through the month. This is bad. Even though my wages should allow me to save a reasonably sum of monies on a monthly basis, I manage to get myself caught in installment plans such as insurances, beauty-related programs, educational programs… they make me feel that money is not enough!

  1. Identify your dream vision for this area.

OH! Dream vision, we are talking about dream vision, yeah? It is to be financially free and I can afford to spend without guilt! I want more time to do the things I love without worrying about money.

  1. Create your affirmative belief in this area, in the form of “I deserve [dream vision].”

I DESERVE TO BE FINANCIALLY FREE SO I CAN SPEND WITHOUT GUILT AND LIVE MY LIFE THE WAY I WANT IT TO BE!

  1. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I’m worthy of love, success, and happiness.”

I am worthy of love, success and happiness. I deserve to be financially free so that I can live my life the way I want and spend without guilt!

My Afterthoughts:

OK, “self-worth” is a relatively big topic. It actually took me a little time to think of the areas which I feel the most dissatisfied with myself. I guess this is a good thing? That I actually need time to identify?

Honestly speaking, I have tons of things about myself that I wish for the better. My weight aka my flabby arms/ tummy/ thighs, my sensitive skin, my dark eye circles, I-think-too-much, money and etc.

They can be better, but I don’t hate myself. Yes, I do have points and areas where I can improve on, but generally I feel lucky and fortunate enough to be “me”. I am born healthy, pleasant looking, relatively good height for a female (I am 164 -5cm), always have good human relationships with the people I meet, decent job, habour dreams and am working towards them in baby steps, love to read and write and the list can go on and on forever.

This topic of “self-worth” can be linked to so many other subjects. Most importantly, I personally think that Gratitude and Self-love go hand-in-hand with Self-worth.

Have a thankful heart in everything and with everything and you will realize that the world is a so much better and more beautiful place to be in.

So… how is your Self-Worth like for you?

You can see more of the actual Day-6 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/affirmation-day-6-self-worth/

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤

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The Comeback!

FINALLY. I can update, now!

Hi Everyone! I am so, SO sorry! I don’t know if anyone is waiting, but I am really sorry for taking such a long time to update. *shoots self*

Too many things have happened in the past… gosh, exactly three weeks since I last posted.

I don’t intend to seem like I am finding excuses to justify my absence, but I feel the need to… at least explain the reasons for my absence, albeit I shouldn’t 😦

On and off, I have been working beyond my usual working hours for the past one month, some family issues and two pressing assignments to be completed… I wish I have an additional eight more hours per day!

I feel very bad for, a lack of better word, “ditching” this blog. I mean, life happens to anyone, and if having this blog is what I want and am passionate about, I must be responsible, yes?

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I feel extremely bad that I have left the 15-day positive affirmation left hanging in the midair. I feel bad towards Celes whom I have pledged to commit, I fee bad towards my readers whom I have promised to commit, and I feel bad towards myself for whom I have promised to commit too. To be honest, there were a few occasions when I have the chance to blog… but I didn’t. Life happens and I am positive that I was not in the right frame of mind to blog. Words did not flow as naturally as they normally would when I’m in a better frame of mind and emotions. I just felt that… whatever I wrote at that point of time with that discouraging frame of mind is going to be awful. That would be so not right for this blog, yo! I strongly believe in even plain text carries emotions which will in turn affect the people who are reading them… so, yeah.

So! *cough* I will continue with the 15-day positive affirmation (of course!) from tomorrow onwards on a daily two-to-three-days (…life…) basis until I complete the challenge! I have so many more things that I am itching to share when I was away from this blog! So many things have happened around me, on me, within me! I waaaaaaaaannnttt to write everything in the speed of light right now! But I can’t, and I won’t, because bedtime is near~

*hint: sleeping by 11pm is one of the things I am burning to share, haha!*

Yep, bedtime is near, it is almost 11pm in Singapore and I can’t wait to continue with the challenge tomorrow! (guess it would be past 11pm by the time I got this posted LOL)

Tomorrow is Thursday, people! Hang in there, the sweet weekend is near 😀

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

See ya tomorrow 😀

Chloe ❤