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Day 5 [Gratitude]: “I’m grateful for everything in my life.”

Hi Everyone!

OK… Day 5 came extremely late, and I am totally guilty of it.

I admit I do have chances to continue with the 15 Days Affirmation Challenge for the past 10 days, but I did not. I was… busy with life, and was (am) feeling mentally exhausted. Not the right state of mind to continue with the challenge because it would all be but half-heartedness. And that is the last thing I want it to happen to the challenge.

So, hope you would forgive me (if you have been waiting at all) T_T!

OK, there are just SO many things to talk about of the Day-5 affirmation, and it’s my personal favourtite just by looking at the topic! Without further ado, let’s begin, yo!


Day 5 [Gratitude]

1. Identify three things that you tend to take for granted.
i. Definitely the people who love me. And they are usually the people I love too. The categories of people who topped this list has to be my family. They are always there for me. Well, not like they can choose to not having me as their family member (haha), but they tend to be more lenient towards me. I can show the ugliest side of myself with complete assurance that they would just accept it and never turn their backs at me (albeit with curses and swears). And I definitely owe them my life and yet… they are the people I seem to thank the least 😦 Gonna change that now!
ii. The fact that I am alive and breathing. Most of us tend to wake up every working morning, either dreading the day or cursing the day. Me, for one, do not wake up jumping out of bed and celebrating another day’s of life. Bad start of the day, eh?
iii. My health. Recently, my health started to sound the alarm, and I was alarmed. Good health is one thing I always take for granted, and I feed myself with rubbish food, sleep at ungodly hour only to be sleep-derived the next morning and started the day with negativity, and think I am young and healthy enough to not rely on regular exercise to keep my good health. Argh. Am totally regretting my absurd teen years now.


2. Identify 10 things that you are grateful for in your life.
i. My family. Without them, I wouldn’t be here. Period.
ii. Myself. I am thankful that I love myself. I am thankful that I appreciate me. I am thankful for the eyes to see, the nose to smell, the mouth to talk and eat, the ears to listen, the heart to beat… you get the drift.
iii. My friends. They spice up my life, and we trust each other in times of crisis. I am thankful to have groups of trusted and close peers!
iv. My boyfriend. He has opened my eyes and mind on financial blueprint and alot more things. I am thankful that he is a loving and supportive man 🙂
v. The earth; the sun, the wind, the rain. I am so, so thankful for the air to breathe, the beautiful place to reside, and so many more to be grateful for. Thank you for having me here! Earlier this year, for months we did not have a single drop of rain in Singapore. We are a Garden City and I recalled how traumatised I have felt when I saw the grasses and trees turn brown and wither, and how the soil cracked from dryness. I was seriously overcome with sadness. And when it finally rained, we rejoiced!
vi. My job. It is not my complete passion, but it opens doors. I am a stronger person with greater resilience, and I am extremely grateful for the chance to accept the challenge and grow bigger than the obstacle. I felt accomplished and the more I uncover unimaginable things about myself, the more I love me more.
vii. Singapore. I am thankful to be born in Singapore, and not any where else where Education, clean water, a roof over my head and plenty food on the table are luxuries and not mandatory.
viii. My passion to read and write. Reading has made up a huge and important part of my life in unimaginable ways. I feel thankful that I love to read.
ix. Future. I am thankful to have ideas on the directions which I can grow to become in the future.
x. Now. I am extremely thankful for Now. I am alive and breathing now and that is the most important thing to feel grateful for.


3. Identify ONE thing you can do TODAY to express gratitude to any one item on your list.
OK, instead of “today” (since now is close to 11.30pm), I shall list one thing which I am going to do “tomorrow”.
I am going to jump out of bed feeling grateful and elated and full of energy instead of dragging my limp body out of bed! Hey, don’t judge me, I think this is a HUGE challenge 😀


4. Say today’s affirmation.

“I’m grateful for everything in my life.”




My Afterthoughts:

Gratitude is one very positive emotion which is incredibly important to have and to practise in everyday life. If a person feels no gratitude, not even the slightest in everyday life, this person is basically a very, very unhappy person.

I am a happy person, yeah! 😀


You can see more of the actual Day-5 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~



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Day 4 [Setbacks]: “I’ve the power to overcome any obstacle that stands in my way.”

Heeeellloooo Everyone!

Here comes Day-4!


Day 4: [Setbacks]


Oh, my, holy… cow!

Setbacks! Setbacks! Do we have to do this?

BRING IT ON. *thrust chest forward*


1. Identify an obstacle you’re facing currently.

OK. This is going to be a long and stinky story. HAHA. Ready? Where’s your popcorns?

So, by now, you should know that I am working (albeit slowly) towards being a coach in the future. My lifetime dream job is to make the people around me feeling happier and happier on their own. I hope for them to be aware of their capabilities to be happy even in every day’s life. ESPECIALLY in their every day’s lives.

Regardless of you being happy or sad, life still goes on, so why not choose to take on life in a happier mood?

OK, I am digressing. So, I aim to becoming a coach who will specialise in Positive Psychology in near (hopefully) future.

But there are obstaclessss appearing already!

It’s the Money. No kidding, yep, we are talking about the big M here (not McDonald’s!).

I do not know how is it like to be a full-time coach nor do I know much a person can earn from being a full-time coach (cum all the many other things I want to do too :D), but being a fairly low-risked human, I hope to have a reasonable sum of mony (for survival) for my transition period. I’m not talking about a hundred thousand dollars here. It would be a fairly reasonable and attainable sum *cough*

But well, just when I am looking at saving this sum of money and feeling so excited and jittery about my bling bling future at the same time… BAM. Incidents happened.

  1. I have given myself a certain timeline to earn that enough money at my current job. And I am faced with stress at work => affecting health => worried = > double stress. My team used to consist of nine people. Since February this year until now, 4 have left (of whom 2 are my closest colleagues), 1 is leaving, 1 might be leaving soon. <insert mind-screams> WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE! <end of mind-screams> So you see; my initial plan was to stay for at least another year at this job. But now, with the shortage of manpower cum my best and closest colleagues left cum increased workload cum peak period of the year… .
  2. My parents are… in the middle of a… huge disagreement which will result in a separation. Coming soon, yo! So, all the more I need the BIG M. And that means I cannot afford to be a full-time self-employed person. As of now. That steady source of income… I hate to admit it, but it is crucial to me and my family at this point of time.
  3. I am honestly not the best person to manage finances at the moment. That is because I have my course fees to pay and some other installments such as insurances and etc. Ah… I need more monies!

OK, so I am supposed to identify a single obstacle, and I did 3 of them, haha. THIS IS GOING TO BE A LONG POST, TSK.


2. Identify action(s) to overcome this obstacle.

Reframing. Yep, this is something which I have been using, and am still using right now. At least, it makes me feel positive towards this job. I am so VERY proud of myself for staying onto this job… and still planning to hang on longer! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU, CHLOE SIM! You go, girl! 😀 (giving encouragements to yourself is very important too!)

People say that cognitive reframing doesn’t last long . Personally, I think it can last pretty long, depending on how you reframe your mind and adjust your mindset. And how frequently you do that. HAHA does it sound like brainwashing yourself?

And this leads to the next step! 😀


3. Create new positive belief(s) to help you overcome this obstacle.

No kidding. I am a living (HAHA, though still on-going) example of this.

It can be extremely low morale to work in an environment where there is tons of work to be done, you got to meet deadlines every single day, lack of communication with the bosses and yet people are leaving. And you know that you are going to take on even MORE workload because there are lesser people around now! And and and, to top it off, the people who are leaving are the people who you have fun with the most, who you love the most and who you think are the most dependable colleagues.

It really isn’t easy.

Not to mention, to commute to work is a long and tiring journey. Every morning feels like a battle commuting to work. I squeeze in the bus, pull myself out from the can of packed sardines, only to flung myself into another bigger can of sardines aka squeeze in the train. I basically brisk-walked in superb mode all the way to work from the moment I step out of my house. I was drained by the time I reached the office. And then the next long battle begins for the next 9 hours. There was to a point where I hated the morning battle so much that I have the strongest urge to leave my job just so I can end this *wave arm around*.

But I hadn’t.

Why are some people always job-hopping? That is because they do not know what they want from the job. In almost every single job, you would definitely feel tired and sick of it. You would definitely feel like you are under (boredom) / over (stressed) challenged and wish for a change in environment. But every job is the same; if you do not know your purpose of being in this job.

At least, this works for me. I recognise my negative thoughts streaming like volcano lavas every single day. And then one day, I simply put a stop to them. I bring down the entire North Pole on them. OK, not funny. I brainstormed with myself, the pros and cons of staying, and I realised that the pros are material benefits whereas the cons are just being too emotional.

Isn’t being happy the most important thing? You might ask. Yes, it is, of course! But there are short-term happiness and long-term happiness. One got to weigh, at crucial times.

What do I need the most now? The material benefits. Come along in a package would be my long-term happiness. I have looked around and realised that this job offers me the best monetary deal for what paper qualifications I have currently. If I were to leave this place, I would:

a.      Spend a longer time to save up the sum of money which I have planed;
b.      New environment: got to build up the rapport with people from scratch.

I don’t plan to stay in the rat race for long, so why do I want to switch to a job which would require me to spending unnecessary amount of time and energy on areas where I could avoid?

I see myself as building up more and more RESILIENCE within myself. I have tuned my mindset in such a way that, I am so very, very curious as to how far I can go (aka stay longer) at this job. Hey, Curiosity can be a very important positive emotion!

At this job where people are expecting me to leave at any time soon because, well, just because, but I am hanging on! And managed to enjoy myself while I am hanging by the edge of the cliff, haha!

I believe that having a purpose or an agenda in every thing that you do or circumstance is extremely important. That is because I believe that at times of setbacks or darkness, the purpose, the WHY (why are you in this job in the first place? Why do you choose this XXX in the first place?) will be the beacon of light. The WHY will act as a buffer; it will be the reason you are able to hang on just a little bit more so as to achieve your desired outcome. Yes, you are doing all these for no one else, but for yourself! Never forget that! 😀

Of course, if the cons heavily outweigh the pros… pushing yourself to hang on further might not be a good thing.

I can go on writing more and more but… another day perhaps~ 😀

To conclude this step, I believe that having positive beliefs are extremely important. They lead the way you shape subsequent thoughts. And we all know that thoughts => actions => results. We do not want one negative thought to ruin a supposedly good result or results, don’t we?

4. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I’ve the power to overcome any obstacle that stands in my way.”


My Afterthoughts:

I knew it! I knew this would be long!
But I’m loving it! Do you? 😀
You can see the actual affirmation challenge post by Celestine Chua here:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~



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Day 3 [Ability]: “I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”

Hi Everyone!

Sorry, I was away for a day, and now I have four days of affirmation challenges to catch up! Nfsjfsfskfnskfnsk

Randomness aside, let my Day-3 begin, yo!


Day 3: [Ability]

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”


Aha! I was one of the many victims of self-doubting my abilities right until last year. I have many dreams but I let my scary-cat self get the better of me – or rather, my ability.

I thought I was just an ordinary woman… do my dreams matter to the world or even to the people around me? Would it affect me? So what if I do not set my heart to realizing them?

I even thought that I could never, ever achieve anything (minus the stuff which I haven’t achieved yet due to procrastination… uh oh).

But that, has changed tremendously ever since the start of Year 2014 😀


1. Identify a goal/dream that you’re blocking yourself in currently.


I used to have a lot of dreams which I was blocking them with my very own hands. But I came to understand that only me and my mind can do funny tricks to myself. My attendance at the 2014 National Achievers Congress has made me even more determined to fight till the very end in life. I mean, hey, it’s MY LIFE. If I don’t take charge, who could do that for me?

That being said… right now, there’s only one left which will still do an occasional peek-a-boo on me. Yep, I am trying hard to overcome this:

I might not be a good speaker and a coach.


2. Identify your self-limiting belief(s) in this goal/dream.


My spoken English is not good enough to be a speaker.

Who would engage my services as a Life Coach in Positive Psychology?

Ok, regarding the first point on my self-belittling belief system on my English language, I have some confidence issue when it comes to this area. Growing up in a Mandarin speaking family, I think I speak way better Mandarin than English. Even though I have people around me telling me that my English is good enough than average Singaporeans, I am still not very convinced. Perhaps it was due to a few “humiliating” incidents when I was younger… Somehow while growing up, I have a lot of friends around me who are very fluent in speaking English. There were a few incidents when I have mispronounced words, and I felt ashamed. These most likely resulted in me having low self-confidence in speaking English. I tend to fumble with the words on my tongue! Urgh.

As for the point on being a coach, I have all the fears and doubts. Even though I have friends around me who have more confidence in me than I have in myself, I still have these self-doubts on my ability to becoming a coach. I think… I was worried and afraid that I wouldn’t be able to help my clients in the way I want to help them.


3. Change this self-limiting belief(s).


Don’t be shy Chloe, just speak out loud! If you know you tend to speak at a very fast pace hence making the words fumble even more, slow down! You don’t want to get a ticket for speeding! … OK that was lame randomness.

Yep, so what if I sound like an idiot (OK, I seriously don’t think I am so bad to this extent but, you know) when I speak in English? Just put more consciousness into it when speaking English to people! Don’t get intimidated by your past experiences! And. Speak. S-l-o-w-e-r. Don’t always talk like you are gonna catch a train =.=

As for the coaching part, you know you can do it! You have all the people around you proving to you that you can do it! You already have plans on becoming a coach, just follow through and you shall see for yourself!

Aja Aja fighting!


4. Identify action step(s) you’re going to take to realize this goal/dream.


OK, finally something I can hold my head high 😀

I have signed up for a public speaking course and will be attending it in early August… woot!

I am currently taking up the diploma in Positive Psychology, the crucial component to becoming the coach that I want to be in the future.

Looking good, Chloe! 😀


5. Say your new belief(s), along with today’s affirmation:

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it.”


OK, spoken out loud cum screamed in my head 😀


My Afterthoughts:


It is a nasty thing to admit to yourself the things that are bothering you. Especially when you just want to turn a blind eye to these hidden issues until they really surface as problem (usually at crucial times).

But I’m glad I did, in writing and sharing. Especially when I continue writing the action plans to change the negative beliefs, I feel more assured 😀

LOL. I felt like I was reprimanding myself though. Yep, I need a good scolding, by myself! Look at what kind of rubbish I have been telling myself and making myself believe in these kind of trash. Tsk tsk tsk.

“I can achieve anything I want, as long as I set my heart to it!: This is definitely gonna be a true story which I would be telling people in the future 😀

You can see more of the actual Day-3 affirmation post by Celestine Chua here:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~



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Day 2 [Self-Love]: “I love myself unconditionally.”

Hello there!

The sky was pouring now as I was writing this and I love weathers like this (especially when I was snuggling at home :D)!

I have just completed my Day-1 positive affirmative in Celes’ 15-Day Affirmations Challenge 🙂

OK, I gotta catch up with the rest (currently at Day-4), let’s go~!


Day 2: [Self-Love]


1. Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have.

Mm…OK. Honestly speaking, I do speak bad of myself on occasions, and they always center around my flabby arms, swimming-float-like tummy, big thighs and cellulite.

I complain of these areas, I wish they would all be two sizes smaller, but I don’t hate myself.

Simply put, I love myself too much to bear such strong negative feelings towards myself! 😀


2. Identify the reason behind this self-hate.

Oh! I want to look like a supermodel. I have a girl-crush on Miranda Kerr.

We are so heavily influenced (aka brainwashed) by the media nowadays that we cannot seem to forgive ourselves if we cannot squeeze into a size 2 dress 😮

Bad, I know, but who has really given a two cents worth of thought into this? It has been coded into our DNA that even if we knew that being able to fit into a size 2 dress is not everything, we still yearn it. We see it as a form of confidence boost. Having a supermodel body would raise the confidence bar to a sky-high extent,I believe, but do we really need this to define ourselves? So what is going on with our self-worth?

And not to mention that there are drastic people doing drastic measures just so as to achieve that kind of results!

But for lazy people like me, all I do is to complain, exercise once a week, try not to eat too much of McDonald’s in a month and that’s all. Can I even fit into a size 8 dress? HAHA.

Of course I do admit that at times, when I look at those pretty dresses which would only look good if they are three sizes smaller than me, I would wish for a sexier body~ Sexy lady eh!


3. Change your self-hating thoughts.

Body is only a shell (or so I am telling myself). I believe that I am one in a million. I am born to achieve greatness! HAHA.


4. Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today.

If this shell is what is bothering me, then I better do something about it. No point whining and complaining and yet allow the weeds to grow like wild fire, yes?

I am currently exercising once a week (Zumba). I aim to also jog… once a week. And I dislike jogging so much! But it is a low cost method which I believed would train my mind. Yep.

I am planning to take up Yogilates (yoga cum pilates) once a week too. I once went for eight classes and then I stopped. The classes were on Saturday mornings! *face palm* Well… I guess this is one way to train my mind too.

The reason for wanting to take up Yogilates is because Yoga is all about stretching the body (deskbound job kills practically any body) and training the mind. Pilates is all about shedding some fats, yo!

Trying to lose some kilograms aside, I strongly believe in leading a healthier lifestyle equals loving yourself. I am currently cutting down on fried food, sugars, salts, meat and the list goes on. Basically, I am increasing my intake of fruits and vegetables 😀 And it feels. So. Good! No kidding! Will blog about it on another day 🙂



*hugged tight*


6.   Say your new belief(s) and affirmation. Then, with your arms still hugging your body, say your new belief(s) out loud, along with today’s affirmation:

“I love myself unconditionally.”



My Afterthoughts:

This affirmation is not very applicable to me right now. It might, however, in rainy days (not literally).

The hugging part is unexpected though. If you felt some stretching going on during the self-hugging people, then I believe you are on the right track 😀

You can see the actual affirmation challenge post here:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~


Chloe ❤

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Day 1 [New Beginning]: “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”

Hi everyone!

I am so excited to begin; I have just voiced out my decision to participate in Celes’ 15-Day Affirmations Challenge 🙂

There will be every-day affirmations followed by specific tasks/ questions to complete or to answer. I will be blogging all 15 affirmations which I would be performing in here. At the end of each task-of-the-day, I will provide my two cents worth on how I feel about the day’s challenge and how it has impacted me (positive, negative or neutral).

It was already Day-4 when I participated. I have pondered if I should begin from Day-4’s task where the current challenge is at now, or should I start from Day-1 instead.

After consideration, I decided to begin from Day-1. Even though I would love to start from Day-4’s task so as to be at real time with all the other participants, I thought there must be a reason for such sequence of the affirmations/ tasks. Why disrupt it for myself? So! I decided to start from Day-1’s affirmation instead 😀

OK! Let me just copy and paste the topic here…:


#AffirmationChallenge Day 1 [New Beginning]: “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”


It is a 5-pointer task, with 4 questions and 1 action.

Let’s have the drum roll~ Dummmm…~ *having fun all by myself*


1. What are ONE area of your life where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in?

If it was the “me” in the past, I would probably list a ton of stuff which I think I have been limiting myself/ felt limited in.

The first on the list got to be me constantly worrying about my future success rate. I have doubts on myself. There are things that I want to do, the results I want to achieve and the life I want to live. I had a classmate who is a pastor, he said his mission statement in life is to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”.

I think it is awesome. How many people nowadays dare to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”?

Too many of us have fear, and still do. We fear of the unforeseen future, we doubt our “capabilities” and “abilities” to achieve. Some fear to dream, some do not even dream.

How saddening.

A dream is what makes a person comes alive. Without dreams, there is no clear direction in life, and I would expect one to develop self-doubt feelings and prevents one from feeling the greatest sense of self-satisfaction.

My self-doubt on my future is my greatest limitation. I have a lot of dreams, but I always used to allow fear to cripple me. But now, I am training my “go whack ‘em!” muscle so that I can use it whenever I feel fear and self-doubt creeping up on me 😀

So! I will be a writer!

A life coach specialising in positive psychology!

A great daughter!

A loving wife and a caring mother!

An entrepreneur!

A speaker!

And most importantly, a person with a humble heart and compassionate spirit 🙂


2. What is the belief statement you’ve been harboring in this area? And is it serving/helping you to accomplish your goal?

I always believed that I am never good enough to be all of the above mentioned. I always believed that I am just a very ordinary woman who might never get a chance to change the “world”. I had always believed that I would never master the skills that I want in order to achieve my dreams.

Also, I think the people around me have more or less contributed to my negative belief system. My family thought that it would be good enough to have a monthly steady paycheck. Any attempt to do something different is “jeopardising” my future. I guess this is a pretty common experience a lot of us have? Granted we love our family and friends, but our lives and dreams are solely ours to live and achieve. To put it bluntly, how have such of their philosophies helped them so far?

Of course all these negative beliefs have done me more harm than good. I have wasted 5 years of my life prior to now thinking that I can never be good enough. It is like poison, and I literally am belittling myself for thinking so. What greatness could come out of these?

I am so glad that I have awakened 😀


3. Change this belief(s). Given that the belief from #2 is limiting, what empowering belief(s) can you change it to?

Whenever I begin to develop self-doubts, I will constantly remind myself of my desires and dreams by asking myself a very simple question:

If I were to stop now just because I was so scared and worried, would I be contented with a mundane and meaningless life? Would I die if I fail upon trying?

And you bet; the answer is always a big NO!


4. Identify your action step(s) to make the change!

I am going to take albeit baby steps to achieve my milestone-goals so that my dream would not look so daunting!

I am currently taking up a diploma in Positive Psychology. It is one step to equip myself with the basic knowledge that I would need to become a life coach 🙂

I am also actively attending seminars which would broaden my mind and help me being an entrepreneur.

I already have ideas for my book(s), and all I need is to put them into words! I will complete a book by the end of this year HAHA 😀


5.  Say your new belief out loud, along with today’s affirmation:

“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”

OK, have said out loudly!


My Afterthoughts:

The first question was surprisingly tough to answer. The one person whom you can never succeed in lying to is oneself. Hence, I feel that the first question was a very “raw” question; it forces you to say your flaw out loud. The more difficult it is to admit aloud to the area which you feel that you have been limiting yourself, the bigger the issue is.

The subsequent questions are fairly easy to answer. Perhaps due to I am already at the stage of cancelling my past negative beliefs and implementing new ones, the responses come naturally to me 😀

Overall, I feel that this is a good exercise; it is a step-by-step guide to leading us come into a conclusion with ourselves.

Can’t wait to do the Day-2!

You can see the actual affirmation challenge post here:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~


Chloe ❤

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[Participated] 15-Day Affirmations Challenge by Celestine Chua

Hi everyone!

I just got to know of this exciting and fun challenge which Celestine Chua (of Personal Excellence) has started!

It’s the 15 Days of Positive Affirmations!

She is already dishing out new affirmations every day, and will do so for a total of 15 days. Each day, participants are to complete the “task” which she has designed for them.

I have already missed out the first 3 days and I am so gonna start now 😀
Each day, while she dishes out new affirmation and task for the day, I will respond by blogging them here 🙂

Through this, I hope that I am able to discover more about myself; to reflect deeper and gain more insights on how to make me an even better person 🙂

If you were as excited as I am, or were intrigued by what you would discover of yourself in this 15-day period, come join us!

For more information, please refer to:

Dream big and believe in yourself, because the power lies within you~

Chloe ❤